Can engaged/ married veterans rush???

[als463]

No-he really wants to do this! He's really excited. I didn't mean to make it sound like it was my idea...I was just emphasizing how much he enjoyed doing things with my chapter and how he wants to do the same in a fraternity. This has nothing to do with getting "closer" or even building his "resume" because as you said-he already has lots on his resume to begin with. Joining a greek organization is important for so much more than resumes (which I'm sure you know being in one yourself)....this gives him the opportunity to get into the college mind set, aside from the work itself. He wants to make a big campus (which Cornell for example has a big greek system) seem smaller....I'm not pushing him-I def. stand behind him, though. I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to join at 25 (it's not like he has children or he's in his 40's-not that I would look down on that, though)...I just wanted to know how most of the men on here would look at a guy interested in doing the Greek thing after being in the military....I wanted to see if they thought that would hold him back or if it would help him stand out in a crowd of other men who wanted to join their organizations...You'll have to excuse me on this one too because I don't really even know the process of joining a fraternity because sororities do it different.....

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by als463

No-he really wants to do this! He's really excited. I didn't mean to make it sound like it was my idea...I was just emphasizing how much he enjoyed doing things with my chapter and how he wants to do the same in a fraternity. This has nothing to do with getting "closer" or even building his "resume" because as you said-he already has lots on his resume to begin with. Joining a greek organization is important for so much more than resumes (which I'm sure you know being in one yourself)....this gives him the opportunity to get into the college mind set, aside from the work itself. He wants to make a big campus (which Cornell for example has a big greek system) seem smaller....I'm not pushing him-I def. stand behind him, though. I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to join at 25 (it's not like he has children or he's in his 40's-not that I would look down on that, though)...I just wanted to know how most of the men on here would look at a guy interested in doing the Greek thing after being in the military....I wanted to see if they thought that would hold him back or if it would help him stand out in a crowd of other men who wanted to join their organizations...You'll have to excuse me on this one too because I don't really even know the process of joining a fraternity because sororities do it different.....

If he is going to school, and it sounds like is of sound mind and somewhat adult, then while it may be hard to do the normal recruitment, He or you should help him to check our the GLOs on Campus with not only their web sites to see what their ideals are.

So, when he finds the one he feels most comforatable with, have him look at them and then talk with them.

There are really no bad GLOs, some do more stupid things and I do not actually feel He will put up with it from being a little older and what his background is!

Do I suggest Him looking YES!

[als463]

Thank you so much for your advice Tom...I might send you a message later regarding this issue if that is alright with you. As I said before, ANY advice is welcome and thank you to all who have replied!!!

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by als463

Thank you so much for your advice Tom...I might send you a message later regarding this issue if that is alright with you. As I said before, ANY advice is welcome and thank you to all who have replied!!!

YES it is! PM me anytime!

A big step is about to be taken for both! But you understand of course!

[SigmaNuHX766]

I'm pretty sure mine does (but I'd have to go to the books to tell you what it is).

Sigma Nu does not have an age cap to the best of my knowledge... one of the brothers that was initiated 2 semesters before me is 34 and attending graduate school for Engineering Management. It may vary from chapter to chapter, however... FYI.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by SigmaNuHX766

Sigma Nu does not have an age cap to the best of my knowledge... one of the brothers that was initiated 2 semesters before me is 34 and attending graduate school for Engineering Management. It may vary from chapter to chapter, however... FYI.

You're right. It's been so long since I've been active I used to have our Constitution/Bylaws and The Law nearly committed to memory.

Since then, I understand our chapter Constitution has undergone a massive rewrite while the bylaws are now absorbed into the Constitution. At any rate, I seem to vaguely recall that my chapter *had* an age limit of 26 years.

I have no idea what it is/if it is today.

[UGAalum94]

I have no idea why I happened to be looking this up (I think I was looking at Barbara's bio), but recently I realized that George H. W Bush was married the whole time he was in college. He served in WWII, came back, married Babs and then went off to be DKE, Skull and Bones, and Phi Beta Kappa.

The only limited connection to this thread is that even some of the most selective groups in terms of male membership can be/were apparently permissive with older or/and or married students.

[SWTXBelle]

My now-ex husband was married to me when he served as president to a colony of Sigma Chi - and then as president of the new chapter. I think the conflict was because of his position, not so much because he was a member. I will admit - I resented the fact that the fraternity ALWAYS seemed to take precedence over me. Then again, please notice he is my ex. I think a balance can be struck - so your guy should be able to be an active member and pay attention to you. It all boils down to time management.