Would you get seriously involved with a guy/girl if he/she......

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

DSTCHAOS, that's funny how you pegged that because my brother already told me what it is. He said that since I'm very quiet and reserved, the more outgoing women are going to approach me. He said they've been with the wild guys. He said that after a while they get tired of that, so they eventually want a more reserved guy who doesn't hang out at the clubs and places like that. He said the more reserved women want to approach me, but since they're reserved like me then we don't approach each other, and those are the ones I'm interested in. I don't like the loud, fast women.

The only places I go are to the book store, work, and school, so I don't understand why I'm attracting the wrong kind of women. Actually I'm getting tired of it. Maybe I should start wearing my fraternity ring on my left finger.

To be honest with you, the women I know and I would probably find you very boring.

Not because we're loud and fast but because we like jokes and charismatic personalities--men who aren't loud but can light up a room even in their silence. Being quiet and reserved may not show your true personality. First impressions can determine whether a woman wants to give you her number and so forth. Also the book store, work, and school regiment is something for old professors to do. Those of us who are young professionals want some spice when we're "off the clock." That doesn't mean you have to be running the streets or having sex, but don't think you have to live the life of a monk, either. I don't know how old you are but I imagine you're a few years younger than I am. So if I find your routine BLAH then that says something.

Your brother's assessment may be accurate. Other possibilities are that you just have limited interactions with women due to your routine. That's basic probability statistics--if you are set to only meet 3 women per month, they are likely to not be what you're looking for and those negative encounters will stick out because you haven't had more positives encounters. Lastly, the women you encounter (the quiet ones, the louder ones, or whatever) may label your quiet reservation for insecurity or being an antisocial cornball.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

To be honest with you, the women I know and I would probably find you very boring.

Not because we're loud and fast but because we like jokes and charismatic personalities--men who aren't loud but can light up a room even in their silence. Being quiet and reserved may not show your true personality. First impressions can determine whether a woman wants to give you her number and so forth. Also the book store, work, and school regiment is something for old professors to do. Those of us who are young professionals want some spice when we're "off the clock." That doesn't mean you have to be running the streets or having sex, but don't think you have to live the life of a monk, either. I don't know how old you are but I imagine you're a few years younger than I am. So if I find your routine BLAH then that says something.

Your brother's assessment may be accurate. Other possibilities are that you just have limited interactions with women due to your routine. That's basic probability statistics--if you are set to only meet 3 women per month, they are likely to not be what you're looking for and those negative encounters will stick out because you haven't had more positives encounters. Lastly, the women you encounter (the quiet ones, the louder ones, or whatever) may label your quiet reservation for insecurity or being an antisocial cornball.

LOL. DSTCHAOS, you're killing me. You are something else. O.K. you and your friends probably would get bored of me, but I'm sure I'd get bored of you ladies too. I guess I'm just an old professor because I love Borders bookstore. If women think I'm a boring insecure cornball, hey there's nothing I can do about that, I gotta be me.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

[B][I][COLOR=red]I'm sure I'd get bored of you ladies too.

Nope. We're engaging women with great personalities.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I love Borders bookstore. If women think I'm a boring insecure cornball, hey there's nothing I can do about that, I gotta be me.

I love Borders too but my routine isn't just school, work, and bookstores.

Or maybe you're repressing your personality. Cheerfulgreek said you're not boring and you're funny. Is that not something you give to some people as a first impression?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Nope. We're engaging women with great personalities.



I love Borders too but my routine isn't just school, work, and bookstores.

Or maybe you're repressing your personality. Cheerfulgreek said you're not boring and you're funny. Is that not something you give to some people as a first impression?

I like to make people laugh whenever I can, I open up when I get to know the person. I'm not mute. You and I just have different routines.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I like to make people laugh whenever I can, I open up when I get to know the person. I'm not mute. You and I just have different routines.

Most people open up when they get to know the person but I didn't think that's what you were initially saying. I thought you were saying you were basically mute until you got to know someone. Is that what you're saying?

We have different routines and I've never had a problem finding the right person to spend my life with. Try something new.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

So you are just mute until you get to know the person? Is that what you're saying? Yeah, I can see why women aren't drawn to you.

We have different routines and I've never had a problem finding the right person to spend my life with. Try something new.

I never said they wern't drawn to me. I don't have a problem there. The wrong ones are drawn to me, but that comes from being very picky. Yup, I'm mute/quiet until I see if the girl is worth my time. I observe 1st then I open up. If we don't have anything in common then what's the point?

We have different routines and diffenernt taste too. You're probably not as picky as me.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I never said they wern't drawn to me.

See my edit.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I'm mute/quiet until I see if the girl is worth my time. I observe 1st then I open up. If we don't have anything in common then what's the point?

That depends on what things you can observe without talking to a person.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

We have different routines and diffenernt taste too. You're probably not as picky as me. [/COLOR][/I][/B]

You don't know what my tastes are. All you know is that I date men and you date women.

If your criteria are silly and ridiculous, then you're right. But if your criteria are reasonable then you're probably wrong. Don't present yourself as too much of an unattainable prize.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I've never had a problem finding the right person to spend my life with.

LOL, not to be a total smartalic, but how many have you found?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

LOL, not to be a total smartalic, but how many have you found?

How many have you?