Mother-in-laws

[valkyrie]

I am fortunate in that I've never been seriously involved with a guy who has a domineering, obnoxious mother.

I find this quote that James posted interesting:

This woman is mean, cold and nasty to me, and since my fiancé is a spineless, gutless wonder, he would never say anything to mommy.

Why in the hell would this woman marry a spineless, gutless wonder? Holy hell.

[AlphaFrog]

Woah - I guess I'm lucky then that my MIL lives 3000 miles away in Mexico, and I've never met her (my parents have, and they say she's an awesome lady, though). I have talked to her on the phone a few times, and she seems like a sweet enough woman. Eventually, I'll get enough vacation saved up and we'll get to go visit.

[ZTAngel]

Maybe I'm rare but I really like my future mother-in-law. She's awesome and is very good to both my fiance and me.

[AlphaFrog]

I guess I should add that my husband didn't get so lucky - we live 3 miles away from his batshit crazy MIL.

[AOIIBrandi]

I thought that the issue between my MIL and me was that we just came from two different "worlds" until last year...

My husband and I have been married for 10 years, no kids, she is desperate for a gandchild. Last year she said to me (without my husband present of course) "Do you think C would have married you if he had known you didn't want kids?" - because it's all my fault. She also asked another entirely inappropriate question (which I won't post here) in the same conversation. I was so stunned all I didn't say anything. When my husband confronted her about it later she said "It's not my fault Brandi can't have an adult conversation". I'm sorry, but in my opinion that is not an adult conversation. I would never say that to anyone, not even my best friend. I assume if two people get married and stay married as long as we have it's not because one of them got suckered into it.

There are many other incidents, but this is not the correct message board for them

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOIIBrandi

She also asked another entirely inappropriate question (which I won't post here) in the same conversation. I was so stunned all I didn't say anything.

I'm really scared thinking about what this might have been.

My little's MIL was one of those "nice on the surface, but underneath you're really not good enough for my baby boy" types. Of course their divorce was all my little's fault. I think I'd rather deal with someone who is just straight up rude and doesn't hide it.

[KSigkid]

I'm lucky, my mother-in-law is great, and has been since my wife and I got together.

[Cardinal026]

My future MIL is awful. We've been dating for 6.5 years (well, were on a break for a year in between, but still spent all our time together during that year) and she thinks that I'm not good enough for him. She and her husband are VERY well off, and look down on my family since we aren't as rich, and she makes constant, ridiculing comments. On Christmas Eve, she pretty much lost it when she found out my BF was coming to my house the next morning to open presents - she actually grabbed my arm and pushed me back, yelling at me that I wasn't married to her son and wasn't family, and if he (my BF) wasn't at her house Christmas Day, then I was never welcome at their house again. ((Note: They had never invited him, or mentioned to him, that anything was going on Christmas Day - we assumed they were only celebrating Christmas Eve festivities)). This is only the icing on an absolutely crazy cake.

BUT - I like looking at the bright side, and it is that in this situation in particular, and all others, my BF has taken my side. He's quick to tell her that she's out of line, that he and I are a family, etc. So its nice that in spite of the headache, I do know that our bond is stronger than her (lack of an) influence on him.

[southernbelle84]

I was very lucky. I get along great w/ my mother in law. She's very sweet. Of course she has her moments.... like when my husband and i said that we were moving the wedding up to Dec instead of June. We've been married for almost 3 months and she's gotten use to her little boy being married.

[BetteDavisEyes]

I've had my ups & downs with mine. It's gotten a lot better lately but she still has her moments. My hubby says to just ignore her b/c she's never going to change.