Mother-in-laws

[Glitter650]

I have a friend who's MIL is TERRIBLE to her, calls her fat, caused all kinds of greif when she was planning the wedding.. etc, so its' not just an urban legand.
If I end up marrying my BF I will be lucky enough to get a SUPER MIL. Both his parents are very nice and treat me very well. His dad once asked if they could trade my BF for me since I was "so polite and well raised" and his mother said "well I'd be glad to take on Cara... but I can't give up my son". Hopefully she still thinks that way if I marry her son !! hehe =)

[valkyrie]

I am fortunate in that I've never been seriously involved with a guy who has a domineering, obnoxious mother.

I find this quote that James posted interesting:

This woman is mean, cold and nasty to me, and since my fiancé is a spineless, gutless wonder, he would never say anything to mommy.

Why in the hell would this woman marry a spineless, gutless wonder? Holy hell.

[AlphaFrog]

Woah - I guess I'm lucky then that my MIL lives 3000 miles away in Mexico, and I've never met her (my parents have, and they say she's an awesome lady, though). I have talked to her on the phone a few times, and she seems like a sweet enough woman. Eventually, I'll get enough vacation saved up and we'll get to go visit.

[ZTAngel]

Maybe I'm rare but I really like my future mother-in-law. She's awesome and is very good to both my fiance and me.

[AlphaFrog]

I guess I should add that my husband didn't get so lucky - we live 3 miles away from his batshit crazy MIL.

[AOIIBrandi]

I thought that the issue between my MIL and me was that we just came from two different "worlds" until last year...

My husband and I have been married for 10 years, no kids, she is desperate for a gandchild. Last year she said to me (without my husband present of course) "Do you think C would have married you if he had known you didn't want kids?" - because it's all my fault. She also asked another entirely inappropriate question (which I won't post here) in the same conversation. I was so stunned all I didn't say anything. When my husband confronted her about it later she said "It's not my fault Brandi can't have an adult conversation". I'm sorry, but in my opinion that is not an adult conversation. I would never say that to anyone, not even my best friend. I assume if two people get married and stay married as long as we have it's not because one of them got suckered into it.

There are many other incidents, but this is not the correct message board for them

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOIIBrandi

She also asked another entirely inappropriate question (which I won't post here) in the same conversation. I was so stunned all I didn't say anything.

I'm really scared thinking about what this might have been.

My little's MIL was one of those "nice on the surface, but underneath you're really not good enough for my baby boy" types. Of course their divorce was all my little's fault. I think I'd rather deal with someone who is just straight up rude and doesn't hide it.

[KSigkid]

I'm lucky, my mother-in-law is great, and has been since my wife and I got together.

[southernbelle84]

I was very lucky. I get along great w/ my mother in law. She's very sweet. Of course she has her moments.... like when my husband and i said that we were moving the wedding up to Dec instead of June. We've been married for almost 3 months and she's gotten use to her little boy being married.

[BetteDavisEyes]

I've had my ups & downs with mine. It's gotten a lot better lately but she still has her moments. My hubby says to just ignore her b/c she's never going to change.