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[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by VTMom

AchiOSnap -- Thanks for some excellent and eloquent advice. I am the type of person who needs a handle on everything -- especially where my daughter is concerned. And especially on something that can seemingly be so rewarding and at the same time (as these recruitment stories tell me) hurtful. Of course such is life. As I speak, my daughter has taken a break from homework and is reading this website with me. It seems like a journey she wants to take, so my next step is contacting the local Panhellenic chapter for recommendations. And I am sure I will have many more questions stored up to ask the office of Greek affairs this summer when we go for orientation. Thanks for your help. It is deeply appreciated.

The local Panhel might also have some recent graduates who could answer some general questions for you as well.

[FSUZeta]

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[Xylochick216]

Just wanted to say good luck to your daughter. About half of the people from my graduating class went to Tech, and many of them joined sororities. They're all really happy they did because they said it gave them a community within the school since the school is so huge. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions

[violetpretty]

Does your daughter know anyone who is a collegiate or alumna member of a sorority at VA Tech? They could give her a good perspective on joining sororities at VA Tech.

A few women who I went to high school joined chapters at VA Tech as sophomores, and I could be wrong because I am not particularly close with either, but I highly doubt they had any recs. I would do some research on the campus greek culture about recs before you dive in. They could end up being useful and worth the time or they could turn out to be a HUGE waste of time. Some people will say "oh, recs never hurt, get them anyway," but at some schools recs would be seen as an annoyance or arrogant like "why do alumnae think they can choose my sisters" sort of attitude.

I know that many women at my campus (Maryland) register hours before the deadline (i.e. they're not gathering recs) and still end up with a bid. Some chapters don't have a reference chair, and the ones that do generally joke about it not being an actual position. Now I am not saying that just because Maryland and VT are both ACC schools that the greek culture is the same. But I can guarantee you that you are not dealing with a school like UGA where a potential new member would be dead without recs.