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Originally Posted by RU OX Alum
Make a rule: no dating brothers. That is the same as no dating the dream girl, which is probably a good idea, having someone's girlfriend as dreamgirl causes nothing but drama. Trust me.
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Ding ding ding. I love the fact that your fraternity is open to gay brothers, but where it gets sticky is the idea that brothers-dating-brothers could turn sour and cause some to leave because of dating drama. Make sure everyone knows that a fraternity is a commitment for life, and a commitment to the rest of the chapter and the rest of the membership as well. Don't get pressured into giving "boyfriend bids" if you feel the mister isn't a good fit for the chapter.
adpiucf's advice is dead-on. Consult the chapter leadership, the advisors, and try to avoid drama as much as possible with the bylaw thing. Also, I'd try talking to the gay members who've already become part of the chapter and make sure they're cool with a "no dating brothers" bylaw clause. Even though you're trying to avoid drama by going straight to the leadership, it might create drama when they see that someone in the chapter didn't consult them when making chapter decisions that relate to their lifestyle.
And like everyone else has said--I wouldn't worry that your house is becoming "the gay house" or not if you continue to put what's important to the fraternity first: initiating brothers who are a good fit for the house and striving for success in everything you do (be it intramurals, greek week, or whatever). Keep doing what you're doing and it looks like you'll be fine.
Good luck!
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