Super Hard Dilema

[SigkapAlumWSU]

I need help guys!

Here's the situation:
Background: I am going to a wedding this weekend for a friend of mine from high school whom I have known for 10 years.

I interviewed for a job with the university last night and pretty much had the best interview of my life. I got a call today and they offered me the position (and it's a great job by the way). The position pays work study, and it is the same for all work study jobs, no matter which one I get.

Here's the Prob: In order to accept the position, I, and all other employees, are required to attend a mandatory training this weekend. It will be the ONLY training and if you do not attend, you cannot work for them.

Deadline: Friday 3:29 pm (the bus for training leaves at 3:30)
Here's the question: What do I do?

-A wedding is something that only happens once and I have known this woman for a long time. The people offering me the position realize this but are not able to make an acception.
-All work study position at the university will pay the same, and I have applications in with other departments.
-The woman offering me the position actually told me that she can't imagine the job without me, and they loved me.

HELP!

[PSUSigKap]

rock . . . SigkapAlumWSU. . .hard place. . .

i think i would go to the wedding. if you have applications in to other departments and they all pay the same, there's a good chance you'll get one of those jobs.

the wedding is a once in a lifetime thing (hopefully ) and there will be another job.

that's just my .02

[adpiucf]

Sorry to crash, but I wanted to offer a suggestion--

Call the potential employer and explain your dilemma. If they can't work with you, that's not an employer I'd recommend working for.

[Aquastar]

I disagree ... some employers cant work with you on situations like that ...

and I know it sucks but hey, if you really want to go to your friends wedding then go for it ... like you said other jobs will pay the same ... and maybe they can hire you for the job next semester ...


Do whichever seems more important to you.

<3

[Kallima]

If it were me, I would go to the wedding.
There will be other jobs, but friends are special.

[SigkapAlumWSU]

I made a decision, and wow, that was HARD.

After talking more with the employer and some employees about the position, I have decided to take the job. I am going to be a student ambassador for my university, involved with the admissions office (recruiting, tours, questions and on and on..) Basically a face and voice for the university to potential and incoming students. This is a very good opportunity for me, and the job will run through my graduation. Although it will pay the same as other jobs, it is a difficult position to get, and a wonderful part to add to my resume. The connections I have already made, with staff, faculty, students, and hopefully alumni, will be so useful to me.
I will be letting my friend know that I can't come to the wedding, and of course sending her a gift. I really wish that I can do both, but I cannot pass up this opportunity. Thanks for all the advice!

Originally posted by SigkapAlumWSU
I will be letting my friend know that I can't come to the wedding, and of course sending her a gift. I really wish that I can do both, but I cannot pass up this opportunity. Thanks for all the advice!

If y'all let me crash also.

I have been in the same situation, and I also chose the job option.

I know I can't speak for your friend, but I also think that the job is more important.

I've never been the bride, but knowing how busy wedding days can be, I'm sure your friend will understand your situation. And I know she knows you won't be "just blowing off" her day. At least you'll be sending them a thoughtful gift to let them know you'll be thinking of them...and honestly, that's what matters.

It's something that you've thought long and hard on, so I'm sure she'll definitely understand.

BTW, [something between You and Me], I ran into Jason Gesser's dad today and it was a TRIP. Found out that he just got married, but dad is planning a homecoming party at MY bar sometime next year. I'm glad he's doing great despite that DUI. Yeah, ask me later, lol.

Crashing to follow up on OTW's post

As a bride who's trying to finalize her RSVPs, I would totally understand. I think you made the right decision!

[Aquastar]

Thats an awsome job to get! CONGRATS!
<3

[winneythepooh7]

I think you made the right decision. Unless you are part of the wedding party or immediate immediate family, I think the bride will be so busy and preoccupied with her day that it won't make much difference if you do not go. Plus you have a legit reason to miss, not like you are deciding last minute you just "don't want to go". Good luck with your new position! It sounds exciting.

[alphaiota]

if i were you i'd do the job too. the bride should understand if she is a true friend. and like a few other people said, it's going to be crazy for her and she won't have much time to spend chatting with you.
good choice hun!

shelley j
sigma k

[SigkapAlumWSU]

Just to update you guys:

I went on the retreat this weekend, and I am now more sure than ever I made the best decision. The weekend was a whole lot of team building and a whole lot more information. I learned more than I thought was possible about recruiting for the university over the weekend, and I know I still have more to go. This job is going to give me the best opprtunity to interact with people, and allow me to help plan recruiting events. Being a representative of the university is such a huge responsibility, and I'm so glad that I was one of 75 people picked to do it!

Go Cougs!

[DigitalAngel126]

So, it's been a month now, are you still loving the job?? When you said you get to be student ambassador, what kind of places do you get to go to??? Sounds like a cool job!!!

(p.s. - damn your job!!! you're never at your computer any more, which makes it very hard to talk to you!)