What to tell a girl who didn't get a bid

[33girl]

Originally Posted by jessicaelaine

no kidding, thats why i posted this. because i need advice about giving advice. i can't exactly offer comforting words to a girl i don't like. and looking at how the votes went for her, neither will many other girls in my sorority. am i supposed to tell her "well, you cheated on your boyfriend with the boyfriend of one of our sisters who then broke up with that sister for you. you're also fake and hyprocritcal and change your personality and opinion depending on who you talk to." i'm telling you i know for sure this girl is going to approch one of us, so not telling her anything is not an option. thanks for your help.

Just tell her:

"I'm sorry, but our membership selection process is confidential. We aren't allowed to discuss why someone was chosen or not chosen with anyone, even with those new members who DID receive bids."

That's all anyone EVER needs to hear about why they were chosen or not chosen. Period.

Oh, and to everyone who's saying "make the Rho Chi do it" I think the OP's Greek system is relatively small and doesn't have formal rush/Rho Chis.

[summer_gphib]

Just a side note... you may want to check your online booklet for errors. NPC is the National Panhellenic Conference, not the National Pan-Hellenic Conference. I'm not trying to be nit picky, but you should know that.

I'm far from a perfect speller, but that is a pretty big mistake.

[GDIfly]

Originally Posted by summer_gphib

NPC is the National Panhellenic Confernece, not the National Pan-Hellenic Conference. I'm not trying to be nit picky, but you should know that.

i'm loling. I'm sure one day someone will get it right.

[mccoyred]

Originally Posted by summer_gphib

Just a side note... you may want to check your online booklet for errors. NPC is the National Panhellenic Conference, not the National Pan-Hellenic Conference. I'm not trying to be nit picky, but you should know that.

I'm far from a perfect speller, but that is a pretty big mistake.

NPC vs NPHC >>> BIG difference

[tunatartare]

If you really don't know what to say to her to make the situation better, then just don't say anything at all. I get the feeling from this thread that Greek Life isn't exactly do or die in your school and this girl had plenty of opportunities to make friends and have a social life without your sorority. Give her some time to cool off and she might not even care that she didn't get a bid and could forget all about you.