Deltas I truly need ya'll help

[laylo]

Originally Posted by treblk

I just wanted to make this point. You are upset about the reaction of your ls's to your coming out and you wante them to welcome you with open arms, but here you stated that your own parents didn't want anything to do with you after you came out to them. Now, I'on know about anyone else, but if my parents are having a hard time with this, what would make me think my ls's would be different? Hang in there, because I am sure it is difficult for you.

If/When you lost your virginity, would/did you tell your girlfriends or your parents? If you'd gotten pregnant in highschool or college, wouldn't your girlfriends' reactions have been much better than your mom's?

[dzdst796]

I know I would not have disclosed it prior to being selected for membership, but I also know that I would have waited or tried to strike up a discussion about the subject to see what the reaction was prior to telling folks. Depending on the situation you might not establish the bond with your line sister(s) until well after the process is over. I know that is how it was for me. One thing that must be kept in perspective just because you are on line with someone does not automatically mean that you will be friends(and I use that word loosely).
In the big scheme of things this situation should make you stronger and next time you will check out the situation before sharing such personal information.

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

my line was mad close during our process and I know I didn't share ever imtimate detail of my life with my LSs...from what I've witnessed "coming out" is extremely difficult and it was probably after she crossed when she truly felt comfortable enough to disclose that information...as for putting it out there before hand, I didn't put it out there that I was a single parent or "older" when I was trying to get selected...sometimes less is more when you know people will judge you on something about your life...in my opinion as long as she hasn't or will not do anything that reflects negatively on our sorority I could care less about who she chooses to love...her LSs are the ones who need to be clowned, not her...and being teased at a probate or whatever and thats cool with her sands...wow...I'm not even 5 yet and I guess things have changed since I came through...maybe its not the norm but Ima ride for mine and that would not have gone down without some problems...oh well Soror keep your head up and let the haters hate...remember the fact that unfortunate as it is, every Delta is your soror but not your friend...I'll keep you in my prayers.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9

I didn't put it out there that I was a single parent or "older" when I was trying to get selected...sometimes less is more when you know people will judge you on something about your life

This all goes to show how things vary from chapter and line.

You would've never been able to keep the fact that you're a single parent or "older" a secret when you were trying to be selected in my chapter. It's not that people would've used that against you but it wouldn't have been a secret you could've kept.

[dzdst796]

Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9

my line was mad close during our process and I know I didn't share ever imtimate detail of my life with my LSs...from what I've witnessed "coming out" is extremely difficult and it was probably after she crossed when she truly felt comfortable enough to disclose that information...as for putting it out there before hand, I didn't put it out there that I was a single parent or "older" when I was trying to get selected...sometimes less is more when you know people will judge you on something about your life...in my opinion as long as she hasn't or will not do anything that reflects negatively on our sorority I could care less about who she chooses to love...her LSs are the ones who need to be clowned, not her...and being teased at a probate or whatever and thats cool with her sands...wow...I'm not even 5 yet and I guess things have changed since I came through...maybe its not the norm but Ima ride for mine and that would not have gone down without some problems...oh well Soror keep your head up and let the haters hate...remember the fact that unfortunate as it is, every Delta is your soror but not your friend...I'll keep you in my prayers.

I agree with you Soror. One thing my prophytes (Reds6) always told us was to handle chapter business in private. I love all of my line sisters, but we don't all get along. There is one who we really don't care much for eachother but you better believe I am not going to let anyone embarass her or call her out. I'm with you I ride for mine too and always will. I couldn't be a prophyte for this line because I would be clowning all of them.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by laylo

If/When you lost your virginity, would/did you tell your girlfriends or your parents? If you'd gotten pregnant in highschool or college, wouldn't your girlfriends' reactions have been much better than your mom's?

Bad analogy. Your girlfriends were probably doing the same things, so of course they would be sympathatic.

[laylo]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Bad analogy. Your girlfriends were probably doing the same things, so of course they would be sympathatic.

Nope, not very many people I know were getting pregnant in highschool or college, so they definitely weren't doing the same thing. And as for losing their virginity, most adults were doing the same thing when they were young. But it wasn't an anlaogy really, it was an illustration of the point that parents' reactions are not always the most accepting, as the other poster was implying. Parents' reactions to their children's struggles can sometimes be worse than anyone else's, particularly parents who tend to blame any issues a child has on their parenting skills.

[treblk]

Originally Posted by laylo

If/When you lost your virginity, would/did you tell your girlfriends or your parents? If you'd gotten pregnant in highschool or college, wouldn't your girlfriends' reactions have been much better than your mom's?

Who(m) are you addressing these questions to?

[DSTKellie]

Aww them Sorors from Delta Zeta are no joke...lol