Just Wondering

[Honeykiss1974]

I was raised by my parents that there is no excuse for a grown man to not have a job and to be able to take care of himself. That includes me not giving him money because he is grown and can work. And if one job isn't cutting it, then he should get two jobs if needed (or improve his skills sets to get a better job).

I'm not against helping or being supportive while dating. But I personally would have a problem if someone I was dating was asking me for money to help pay his bills or for spending money so he can go hang out with the guys.

[DSTCHAOS]

No one should be taking care of another person who isn't a dependent. That goes for a man or a woman. If a REAL man takes care of his own then so does a REAL woman.

I think that dating is about reciprocity and doing for each other out of the kindness of your heart but all of it in moderation. If you're married and the agreement is that she pays the majority of the bills and he is the caregiver for the children and does a lot of the housework, then that's prearranged and they are different but equal responsibilities. When you feel like you're giving more than receiving and the person is making you feel obligated to care for them while they aren't lifting a finger, a change needs to be made.