Dirty Rush

[adpiucf]

Back to my original question-- what does the PNM say to such an invitation if she is asked and does not feel comfortable accepting, knowing it is against the rules and caring that it is against the rules?

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Back to my original question-- what does the PNM say to such an invitation if she is asked and does not feel comfortable accepting, knowing it is against the rules and caring that it is against the rules?

Weeeeeeell, to avoid offending anyone she could be like "I'd love to! But wait-isn't that against rush rules or something?" and then go from there. Sort of playing dumb (which I NEVER advocate except in this particular type of situation) in order to avoid looking like the Rush Rules Enforcer Marshall or something.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Back to my original question-- what does the PNM say to such an invitation if she is asked and does not feel comfortable accepting, knowing it is against the rules and caring that it is against the rules?

"Thank you for your kind invitation and for thinking of me. Unfortunately, I am unable to attend. Perhaps we can get together at a later date."

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by TSteven

"Thank you for your kind invitation and for thinking of me. Unfortunately, I am unable to attend. Perhaps we can get together at a later date."

It seems a little formal for college aged conversation.... Plus, it sounds like a polite way to say "I'm not interested".

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by OtterXO

It seems a little formal for college aged conversation.... Plus, it sounds like a polite way to say "I'm not interested".

True. The tone of the reply should "fit" the tone of the invitation.

The issue is how to be polite and interested, yet decline the invite. All the while avoiding opening up the conversation as to "why" she won't accept the bid. If she says, "That is totally cool. But isn't that against the rules?" might not get her a bid during formal rush. So perhaps something like "Thanks, that sounds like fun. Unfortunately, I can't make it." Or "Wow. That is so something I would love to do. But I can't make it Friday. Maybe sometime later." (Or what ever vernacular the kids are using these days.)

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Back to my original question-- what does the PNM say to such an invitation if she is asked and does not feel comfortable accepting, knowing it is against the rules and caring that it is against the rules?

Something like "That would be so fun! But isn't it against the rules? I don't want to get you guys in trouble..." That way it looks like she's looking out for them.

Once the sorority members realize that she knows it's against the rules and questioned them about it, I bet they would back off (if they're smart they would).

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

Something like "That would be so fun! But isn't it against the rules? I don't want to get you guys in trouble..." That way it looks like she's looking out for them.

Once the sorority members realize that she knows it's against the rules and questioned them about it, I bet they would back off (if they're smart they would).

I agree. This is an excellent way to reply.