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Originally Posted by James
It doesn't matter per se whether they are getting treatment are not.
What matters is how they act towards you and whether you like that treatment.
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You've never been close to someone who needed psychiatric treatment but wasn't getting it, have you?
My best friend from college was bipolar. When she was actually going to see her shrink and taking her meds, which was 75% of the time, she was AWESOME. Fun to be around and exciting, creative, but on an even keel. She was very loyal, trustworthy, and a solid person to be around.
That other 25% of the time, when she was cancelling her appointments and not taking her meds, it was hell. She would disappear for days on drunken or drug binges, and would come back disheveled and unbathed. She would spend thousands of dollars and have nothing to show for it in the end. She was still a very loyal person, but when she wasn't taking care of herself, she became very needy.
Unfortunately, I have to use the past tense because she killed herself two years ago next month. She stopped taking her meds and it just went downhill.
So, when you say it's
not an issue of treatment v. not being treated, you are sadly mistaken. Every single person I've known who has had a close friend/significant other with a mental disorder that requires medicine says that being treated makes all the difference.
But, you tend to be wrong about most interpersonal relationships, so why should I expect anything more?
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Phil, I understand to some extent what you're going through. I think the best thing for both of you is to spend time apart while he starts his treatment. The first few months of psychiatric treatment tend to be very difficult on the patient. Maybe in two or three months, you can really attempt to be real friends.
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