Lame?

[Marie]

First,

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

But, I don't want to break out of my preferance...they go hand in hand with my beliefs plus as I stated above I don't totally let them dictate who i chose to date.

Then,

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

All I'm saying is that I understand some people are different and I wouldn't let the fact that she occassional drink get stop me from dating her...especially if I really liked her. The same goes for sex.

Are you confused? You're flip flopping from "These issues are too important to me, and I can't really see myself letting them slide, but maybe." to "Yeah, it's cool. To each their own."

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by Marie

Are you confused? You're flip flopping from "These issues are too important to me, and I can't really see myself letting them slide, but maybe." to "Yeah, it's cool. To each their own."

Like I said...this thread is designed for reinforcement, and that is good proof. "Please tell me how awesome I am because I have superior morals."

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Like I said...this thread is designed for reinforcement, and that is good proof. "Please tell me how awesome I am because I have superior morals."

I wonder if he also was hoping to find a nice 19-year-old Amish girl fresh from rumspringa who spent the past year drinking and now sees the error of her ways and by the way is really, really hot but totally waiting for the right guy before she'll have actual sex who would, like, PM him and they could go on a date to the soda fountain where they might, like, hold hands, teehee!

[AlphaFrog]

He could have dated my roommate from freshman year...but only Sun-Thur. Those were here "born again Christian" days...Fri & Sat someone carried her home from the parties. But hey, there's always bible study, that makes a great Wed. night date.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

I wonder if he also was hoping to find a nice 19-year-old Amish girl fresh from rumspringa who spent the past year drinking and now sees the error of her ways and by the way is really, really hot but totally waiting for the right guy before she'll have actual sex who would, like, PM him and they could go on a date to the soda fountain where they might, like, hold hands, teehee!

Holding hands before marriage is sinful. You could get a nail fungus that way.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

Holding hands before marriage is sinful. You could get a nail fungus that way.

And definitely don't kiss her...she could get pregnant, or get an S...I mean KTD.

[Liberal_South]

I read most of this thread, and the short answer is AKΨ_BRO@DSU, it is incredibly lame. I also find it funny that you "try to be different," I find it pathetic that you try to be different. Why don't you just be yourself and if you're different then you're different, and if not, then don't. Also, I would never date a girl that doesn't drink, or have sex. Furthermore, at some point you'll have to find yourself a virgin because you're going to suck so much and a relatively experienced person will know it and be turned off, while the virgin won't have anything to compare to. Good luck in life.

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Originally Posted by Marie

First,



Then,



Are you confused? You're flip flopping from "These issues are too important to me, and I can't really see myself letting them slide, but maybe." to "Yeah, it's cool. To each their own."

What I'm saying is that I'm always going to hold the standard that I prefer a woman who doesn't drink and hasn't had a whole lot of sexual partners but I won't totally just not give the girl a chance because she not what I usually prefer. If I like her for who she is but I just don't like something she does, then I would still give her a chance.It doesn't mean that now I prefer women that drink, but it means something about her out wieghs that particular standard that I have. She would have to be an exceptional person in my point of view.

[Wine&SilverBlue]

For example, I may not drink, but I would date a girl that drinks socially because I respect the fact that we are different however, I would tell her occasionally out of compassion that I don't like it because the overall negative affects it can have on her and its just a really unattractive look for her when she does it. Sure I would be happy if she found the rational to stop but if she didn't the only thing that I would do is pray that it doesn't affect her too bad in the future.

As I said earlier, the attitude and reasoning behind the decisions would matter more to me than the decisions themselves. The "compassionate nagging" and the "I'll pray for you" attitude are MUCH MUCH bigger turnoffs to me than the fact that a guy doesnt drink. I'd prefer a guy whose drinking habits matched my own, but if they didn't it wouldn't be a dealbreaker - an attitude like this, however, would be.

I'm not saying it's "wrong" or "bad" to have that perspective, and I'm sure there are girls out there who who prefer a preachy guy who shares their values, but I personally would run far far away.

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Originally Posted by Wine&SilverBlue

For example, I may not drink, but I would date a girl that drinks socially because I respect the fact that we are different however, I would tell her occasionally out of compassion that I don't like it because the overall negative affects it can have on her and its just a really unattractive look for her when she does it. Sure I would be happy if she found the rational to stop but if she didn't the only thing that I would do is pray that it doesn't affect her too bad in the future.

As I said earlier, the attitude and reasoning behind the decisions would matter more to me than the decisions themselves. The "compassionate nagging" and the "I'll pray for you" attitude are MUCH MUCH bigger turnoffs to me than the fact that a guy doesnt drink. I'd prefer a guy whose drinking habits matched my own, but if they didn't it wouldn't be a dealbreaker - an attitude like this, however, would be.

I'm not saying it's "wrong" or "bad" to have that perspective, and I'm sure there are girls out there who who prefer a preachy guy who shares their values, but I personally would run far far away.

How is it preachy? That's like with any couple...one half may have an annoying habit that the other particularly doesn't like and vise versa. But they live with it just as long as it doesn't get out of control. Nothing is wrong with tellin the other person, you don't like it...not to preach to them but actually to let them know that you care enough about them that you wouldn't want something bad to result from the habit. So like I said, it comes from caring about the person and not imposing "your will" on them.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

How is it preachy? That's like with any couple...one half may have an annoying habit that the other particularly doesn't like and vise versa. But they live with it just as long as it doesn't get out of control. Nothing is wrong with tellin the other person, you don't like it...not to preach to them but actually to let them know that you care enough about them that you would want something bad to out of the habit. So like I said, it comes from caring about the person and not imposing "your will" on them.

This isn't really comparable to something like leaving the toliet seat up (which can be an annoying habit).

Drinking in moderation (i.e. a glass of wine with dinner) has actually been proven to have health BENEFITS. So maybe she should tell you how concerned she is about you because you don't drink anything.

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Originally Posted by kddani

This isn't really comparable to something like leaving the toliet seat up (which can be an annoying habit).

Drinking in moderation (i.e. a glass of wine with dinner) has actually been proven to have health BENEFITS. So maybe she should tell you how concerned she is about you because you don't drink anything.

And It also weakens your immune system. It does more negative than positive to the human body. That's an indisputible fact and REALLY none of the people who have posted prior to this one has said, "I drink to stay healthy".

[Marie]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

And It also weakens your immune system. It does more negative than positive to the human body. That's an indisputible fact and REALLY none of the people who have posted prior to this one has said, "I drink to stay healthy".

Because this thread is not about justifying why we drink, but rather to answer your original question of do we think that you are/aren't lame. That has already been answered. No one needs to explain their preferences to you, but you do need to fully understand and accept your preferences/standards & their consequences. You seem to be the one looking for validation.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

And It also weakens your immune system. It does more negative than positive to the human body. That's an indisputible fact and REALLY none of the people who have posted prior to this one has said, "I drink to stay healthy".

I drink to stay mentally healthy. So do all the people who call Lawyers Helping Lawyers.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

And It also weakens your immune system. It does more negative than positive to the human body. That's an indisputible fact

Cite please?