Lame?

AKΨ_BRO@DSU · #1 07-18-2006, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Marie

Also, people have already said that they feel that someone waiting to have sex may be doing it for religious reasons or may be inexperienced, which does not appeal to them. It has also been said that some people have found non-drinkers to be preachy (like coming on a MB and asking a question that they already know the answer to just so that they can argue their side) or they might not fit in with their social requirements (professional/cultural/etc). Are there other reasons that you are looking for? I mean we can play this game with anything...why don't u like dating tall women/short women/fat women/ women with 1 leg/women with 6 toes/women with bad weaves/ women who look and dress like tomboys? Explain why you're not superficial for having your preferences? Essentially this is where you seem to be taking this thread. Everyone is not right for everyone (no matter the reason). Period.

Excellent point. I can't really debate that other than by saying a lot of the things that you listed are physical features that can rarely be done anything about. This differs because I'm talking about positive choices a person has decided to make. That's like someone saying..."I'm going to stop cursing" and another person being turned off because they curse and believe that they are now incompatible. That doesn't make since to me. We are all different and there for do different things. For example, I may not drink, but I would date a girl that drinks socially because I respect the fact that we are different however, I would tell her occasionally out of compassion that I don't like it because the overall negative affects it can have on her and its just a really unattractive look for her when she does it. Sure I would be happy if she found the rational to stop but if she didn't the only thing that I would do is pray that it doesn't affect her too bad in the future.

valkyrie · #2 07-19-2006, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

For example, I may not drink, but I would date a girl that drinks socially because I respect the fact that we are different however, I would tell her occasionally out of compassion that I don't like it because the overall negative affects it can have on her and its just a really unattractive look for her when she does it. Sure I would be happy if she found the rational to stop but if she didn't the only thing that I would do is pray that it doesn't affect her too bad in the future.

I take this to mean that he is *not* okay with dating a woman who drinks. I mean, he might try to appear to be okay with it at first, but after a while, the "compassionate nagging" will start: Drinking has negative effects on you. It's unattractive when you drink. You should stop. If you don't, I'll pray for you. I'll pray that you don't mess up your life too much by drinking.

AlphaFrog · #3 07-19-2006, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by valkyrie

I take this to mean that he is *not* okay with dating a woman who drinks. I mean, he might try to appear to be okay with it at first, but after a while, the "compassionate nagging" will start: Drinking has negative effects on you. It's unattractive when you drink. You should stop. If you don't, I'll pray for you. I'll pray that you don't mess up your life too much by drinking.

I have to agree on this one.

OtterXO · #4 07-19-2006, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by valkyrie

I take this to mean that he is *not* okay with dating a woman who drinks. I mean, he might try to appear to be okay with it at first, but after a while, the "compassionate nagging" will start: Drinking has negative effects on you. It's unattractive when you drink. You should stop. If you don't, I'll pray for you. I'll pray that you don't mess up your life too much by drinking.

Based on his statements, I have to agree as well.

GeekyPenguin · #5 07-19-2006, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

Excellent point. I can't really debate that other than by saying a lot of the things that you listed are physical features that can rarely be done anything about. This differs because I'm talking about positive choices a person has decided to make. That's like someone saying..."I'm going to stop cursing" and another person being turned off because they curse and believe that they are now incompatible. That doesn't make since to me. We are all different and there for do different things. For example, I may not drink, but I would date a girl that drinks socially because I respect the fact that we are different however, I would tell her occasionally out of compassion that I don't like it because the overall negative affects it can have on her and its just a really unattractive look for her when she does it. Sure I would be happy if she found the rational to stop but if she didn't the only thing that I would do is pray that it doesn't affect her too bad in the future.

Homeboy, did you know you can drink without getting drunk? Unless you are a Mormon or a member of another religion that frowns on drinking, there is nothing wrong with a glass of wine with dinner, or knocking back a few during the Hometown Team game.

valkyrie · #6 07-19-2006, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

Homeboy, did you know you can drink without getting drunk? Unless you are a Mormon or a member of another religion that frowns on drinking, there is nothing wrong with a glass of wine with dinner, or knocking back a few during the Hometown Team game.

Maybe he's Baha'i.

I can't even imagine how someone could claim that drinking is "just a really unattractive look for her when she does it." I mean, sitting at a bar drinking a pint of beer looks MUCH worse than sitting at a bar drinking a coke. Right?

Drolefille · #7 07-19-2006, 12:12 PM

I wonder if he's only experience the people who drink to get trashed. If so, he's clearly hanging out with the wrong crowd.

Dionysus · #8 07-19-2006, 12:15 PM

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I wonder if he's only experience the people who drink to get trashed. If so, he's clearly hanging out with the wrong crowd.

Hmmmm...what's wrong with getting trashed every now and then? Just because it isn't your cup of tea, doesn't mean it's wrong.

Marie · #9 07-19-2006, 12:17 PM

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Hmmmm...what's wrong with getting trashed every now and then? Just because it isn't your cup of tea, doesn't mean it's wrong.

True, but maybe he's around people who only get trashed everytime that they drink. I mean, otherwise he should know that its possible to drink and stay sober or only get drunk from time to time. Ya know?

Dionysus · #10 07-19-2006, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Marie

True, but maybe he's around people who only get trashed everytime that they drink. I mean, otherwise he should know that its possible to drink and stay sober or only get drunk from time to time. Ya know?

But, isn't that unlikely? Unless you came from a totally "holy" background, you probably have been exposed to all types of drinkers.

AlphaFrog · #11 07-19-2006, 12:32 PM

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Hmmmm...what's wrong with getting trashed every now and then? Just because it isn't your cup of tea, doesn't mean it's wrong.

Yes, but if you only KNOW how to drink to get trashed, and can't have just a drink with dinner, or A beer at the bar, that's a pretty good indicator of a problem.

GeekyPenguin · #12 07-19-2006, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by valkyrie

Maybe he's Baha'i.

I can't even imagine how someone could claim that drinking is "just a really unattractive look for her when she does it." I mean, sitting at a bar drinking a pint of beer looks MUCH worse than sitting at a bar drinking a coke. Right?

Yes. And apparently he can tell the difference between vodka on the rocks and water. Crazy.

Marie · #13 07-19-2006, 01:15 PM

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Yes. And apparently he can tell the difference between vodka on the rocks and water. Crazy.

Clearly...and don't let her have a glass of wine. That's just down right sloppy.

AlphaFrog · #14 07-19-2006, 01:16 PM

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Clearly...and don't let her have a glass of wine. That's just down right sloppy.

Why do I get the feeling that if a girl he was with did order wine, it would be White Zin???

tunatartare · #15 07-19-2006, 01:31 PM

There's nothing wrong with White Zin.