Lame?

[Marie]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

in my opinion by saying you wouldn't want to be involved with someone who participates in the activities that I listed, is kinda imply that you felt these are things that you feel people should do at that age.

So when u asked your question, you already had an opinion formed about the answers that u were going to receive? I mean you were either going to get a 'yes, I'd want to date you." or a "no, I wouldn't want to date you.", but you already knew how u felt about the inevitable answers. What was your true intent?

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Not really because I didn't know what people would say. I only formed opinions after reading people's responses. I mean I know how I feel about these things in general, however I just wanted to understand where people with an alternate opinion where coming from. Also, to see how many people (females specificly) shared the same views as me. I'm beginning to realize exactly how much of a minority I am.

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

Not really because I didn't know what people would say. I only formed opinions after reading people's responses. I mean I know how I feel about these things in general, however I just wanted to understand where people with an alternate opinion where coming from. Also, to see how many people (females specificly) shared the same views as me. I'm beginning to realize exactly how much of a minority I am.

Two things: First, I'm not sure how old you are but that may be part of why you and I have differing views on these issues. I believe you might have mentioned that you are 21. At 21 I probably would have wanted a guy with your level of experience b/c I had only experienced dating one guy long term. But I have almost 6 years on you now, so asking if I'd want to date the same guy I would have dated at 21...absolutely not. So in that sense, you aren't necessarily a minority, you just may have received replies from women older than you.

Second, I think you did anticipate our responses because you seemed to have heard some of them before...which is why you asked the question, right?

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Originally Posted by OtterXO

Two things: First, I'm not sure how old you are but that may be part of why you and I have differing views on these issues. I believe you might have mentioned that you are 21. At 21 I probably would have wanted a guy with your level of experience b/c I had only experienced dating one guy long term. But I have almost 6 years on you now, so asking if I'd want to date the same guy I would have dated at 21...absolutely not. So in that sense, you aren't necessarily a minority, you just may have received replies from women older than you.

Second, I think you did anticipate our responses because you seemed to have heard some of them before...which is why you asked the question, right?

I can understand the first half of that clearly. Yes I have but i'm ususally the type of person that keeps this type of stuff to myself because I don't want to offend people that I know with my views. So I really never ask them...the deep "Why?" questions that I am now.

[Marie]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

Not really because I didn't know what people would say.

You could only get 1 of 2 responses. Honestly, I think your original question could have been answered with a yes or a no (I'll go back and check), sooo...what was new information to you?


ETA: I was correct. "Ladies: Would you honestly consider a young man who doesn't drink, is drug-free and a virgin lame?"

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Originally Posted by Marie

You could only get 1 of 2 responses. Honestly, I think your original question could have been answered with a yes or a no (I'll go back and check), sooo...what was new information to you?


ETA: I was correct. "Ladies: Would you honestly consider a young man who doesn't drink, is drug-free and a virgin lame?"

Check out my response to OtterXO

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

Not really because I didn't know what people would say. I only formed opinions after reading people's responses. I mean I know how I feel about these things in general, however I just wanted to understand where people with an alternate opinion where coming from. Also, to see how many people (females specificly) shared the same views as me. I'm beginning to realize exactly how much of a minority I am.

Well . . . let's start with the end, so to speak - you're probably less of a 'minority' than you'd think by reading this thread, for myriad reasons but mostly because the population who will answer you self-selects a large number of people who, in fact, have sex. I'd bet you can come up with two of these reasons right off the top of your head, but I have about 5 right now.

Basically, a large part of the group you're asking, by necessity, is the "wrong crowd" to fill in this gap for you (although obviously they can still answer the question).

Second, I think you're taking this a little too harshly - the one simple rule for relationships (for most sane people) is that the rules are few and flexible. By this, I mean that I would generally prefer to date someone with attribute __________, but in the right situation I'll gladly break that rule (or, more likely, for the right person).

You pride yourself on being unique, so maybe you should look forward to being able to create unique situations where you can break out of these preferences - and the way to do this really isn't through explaining your actions in increasingly direct fashion to anonymous people who are speaking in broad generalities, but instead through understanding these generalities and using them as a guide for your actions.

-RC
--Hence Drollefille is kind of wrong, sorry ace!

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

But, I don't want to break out of my preferance...they go hand in hand with my beliefs plus as I stated above I don't totally let them dictate who i chose to date.

[Dionysus]

Son, do you have a pic? What's your name and number?




I'm joking, lol.

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

LOL

[Marie]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

But, I don't want to break out of my preferance...they go hand in hand with my beliefs plus as I stated above I don't totally let them dictate who i chose to date.

He meant other people breaking out of their preference by dating you.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by AKΨ_BRO@DSU

But, I don't want to break out of my preferance...they go hand in hand with my beliefs plus as I stated above I don't totally let them dictate who i chose to date.

Yeah . . . if that's what you got out of my post, then I can better understand where the problems in this thread are born. I clearly meant the exact opposite.