Lame?

OtterXO · #1 07-18-2006, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

I'm not just talking about in this thread, though it does apply here too. Sounds like you're preaching that a 21 year old male should be having sex and drinking... or there's something wrong with him.

That's as stupid as me saying that a 21 year old male who's having sex and drinking has something wrong with him.

Non-drinkers get preached to frequently... and I've never been one to preach to my friends about it.

No, that's not what we were doing. He asked whether women would think he was lame and we gave an answer. I don't think anyone should have to say they would like something in a man just to make him feel better when he asked why we would/wouldn't date a guy with his characteristics. All of it relates to personal choices and none of it was preaching to him.

Drolefille · #2 07-18-2006, 12:17 PM

Like I said, I'm not just talking here. Several people took his comments as "preaching" when they really weren't.. just sharing his views.

That's the exact same thing you're saying to me now...

And you don't see how both sides could feel preached to?

kddani · #3 07-18-2006, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Like I said, I'm not just talking here. Several people took his comments as "preaching" when they really weren't.. just sharing his views.

That's the exact same thing you're saying to me now...

And you don't see how both sides could feel preached to?

Honestly... he asked for it literally(I don't mean that in a fighting, negative way). He asked for opinions. We gave them. He then asked questions of WHY, opening himself up to what you're calling "preaching" from our side.

OtterXO · #4 07-18-2006, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Like I said, I'm not just talking here. Several people took his comments as "preaching" when they really weren't.. just sharing his views.

That's the exact same thing you're saying to me now...

And you don't see how both sides could feel preached to?

I see your point I just don't think that was happening here.

valkyrie · #5 07-18-2006, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Like I said, I'm not just talking here. Several people took his comments as "preaching" when they really weren't.. just sharing his views.

The thing is, you aren't in charge of interpreting his statements for the rest of us. If anything he posted came off as "preaching" to anybody else, I don't see how that's your concern.

It's abundantly clear that you agree with what he's saying and you feel that anybody who considers what he's said to be "preaching" is attacking you personally. Nobody is attacking you or your beliefs about sex and relationships, aiight?

Drolefille · #6 07-18-2006, 01:00 PM

No, I don't feel like that. Please don't interpret my statements

I'm simply saying that You thought he was preaching. And you don't seem to see how I could view things others say as preaching.

OtterXO · #7 07-18-2006, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

I'm simply saying that You thought he was preaching. And you don't seem to see how I could view things others say as preaching.

The thing is, you aren't the OP in this thread....so if you're personalizing things that aren't directed at you then there's really nothing anyone can do about it.

Drolefille · #8 07-18-2006, 02:38 PM

Oy.
I'm not personalizing things not directed at me

I
am
simply
stating
that
both
sides
of
this
dicussion
can
feel
preached
at

valkyrie · #9 07-18-2006, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Like I said, I'm not just talking here. Several people took his comments as "preaching" when they really weren't.. just sharing his views.

Here you said something more than "both sides of this discussion can feel preached at" (that's kind of a "duh" statement, isn't it?) -- you said he was not preaching. If "both sides can feel preached at," your determination that the OP was not "preaching" isn't relevant to those who thought he was, is it?

Drolefille · #10 07-18-2006, 02:57 PM

Valkyrie.. exactly how many times have you told someone that their opinion was irrelevant today? You keep referencing the OP and keep dragging it further and further away.

I Don't Know HOW MORE NON-CONFRONTATIONAL I CAN MAKE MY COMMENTS FOR YOU TO GET IT

/Thank you decider-of-relevancy

valkyrie · #11 07-18-2006, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Valkyrie.. exactly how many times have you told someone that their opinion was irrelevant today? You keep referencing the OP and keep dragging it further and further away.

I Don't Know HOW MORE NON-CONFRONTATIONAL I CAN MAKE MY COMMENTS FOR YOU TO GET IT

/Thank you decider-of-relevancy

I don't know. How many times have I?

ALSO, TYPING IN ALL CAPS TOTALLY MAKES YOU COME OFF AS LESS CONFRONTATIONAL THAN YOU DID BEFORE.