A big thank you to this board.

[Sen's Revenge]

I have a few words of advice, not that you asked, but here I am:

You will be an alumnus of Alpha Phi Omega for far longer than you will be an active in Alpha Phi Omega. Although these experiences will influence how you interact with APO for the rest of your life, they don't HAVE to. I guarantee you that the vast majority of the people you have problems with will never attend another APO event after they graduate. So consider how you will navigate APO after YOU graduate.

College students are catty and APO brothers, by and large, chapter to chapter, seem to have a hard time dealing with conflict. I do not miss that period of my life one bit. Would I have handled your situation the way that you did? Probably not, but what's done is done at this point. Continue to stand up for yourself but be mindful of how you convey the messages you want conveyed (tone, demeanor, body language can say more than just words on a screen).

Finally, you will never avoid conflict in APO or any organization, even if you remain involved as an alumnus. I've run for national office and had other alums speak out against me to the nominating committee. And yes, I am still bitter. :-) But it's okay to take breaks and regroup.

Every Brother is not going to be your friend--and some shouldn't be--but if you keep the SERVICE FIRST, you will still have a very fulfilling fraternity experience.