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Originally Posted by pnm13
Anyways: Does it mean anything (Is it important? Not? Good? Bad?) if the Vice President or President of the sorority personally introduces herself and has small talk with one or two of the PNMs during the water party rounds?
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Concur with the other answers posted. I would also add that it may help you to keep in perspective what the Water Parties are. They are merely initial introductory opportunities for the PNMs and the chapters. It is intended to be a casual, get-acquainted event on both sides, notwithstanding the hectic pace.
The most that the sororities are trying to accomplish at this stage in terms of selection is to generally sort the PNMs that they don't know much about into three basic piles (not of equal size):
1) I can really see this girl as an XYZ. Self explanatory. You may find yourself paired with a strong recruiter later in FR.
2) I would like to know more about this girl to see if she is a fit with XYZ. This is where thetalady's advice is important. The actives know who you are now, and if they see your head buried in a trash can at Rooster's during the next three weeks, expect them to take note. Conversely, if you have a chance to make a positive impression in class or elsewhere, your stock will go up.
3) I don't see this girl as an XYZ. At this stage about the only way that happens is if they learned about a QR or you just completely botched the conversation in a way that makes them think you have no social skills whatsoever. Even that is not unrecoverable at this stage (unless perhaps if it was intentional and they find that out).
As an example, my DD told me yesterday about 1 of her 12 PNMs from Sunday. No eye contact, no responsiveness beyond one word answers and grunts, no questions, no expressions of interest of any kind resulted in a painfully long 20 minutes for my already exhausted DD, and not a very high score for the PNM. There are multiple explanations for this, none of them acceptable. Maybe PNM is a quintuple Ole Miss chapter legacy and a direct descendent of a Founder of ABC, but still. The actives know about these situations and/or that the PNMs are under a lot of pressure, but part of maturity is to hold up your end of the conversational bargain anyway. As Dr. Sheldon Cooper (TBBT) might say, "It's a non-optional social convention."
So, if the President or the VP (or any other member) engaged you in conversation, and you responded with something approaching a complete sentence containing a coherent thought, my DD would say, "Yay you!". That's all you needed to accomplish for the day. Hotty Toddy!
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