Having a hard time getting over one I got dropped from?

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by ngsu

Hi there, so I just went through sorority recruitment and thankfully got into a great sorority on campus. Recruitment was 2 weeks ago, and I'm still having a hard time getting over one of the ones I didn't get into. The one I got in to at the time was one of my bottom picks...I almost dropped them even. I had gotten a weird vibe and fell in love with some of the others on campus, one in particular. I totally fell in love with it. I felt so at home there, so comfortable, the atmosphere was incredible and the girls I talked to were outstanding and I just loved everything about the house and the entire group of girls and everything. I was dropped after sisterhood day by them and was devastated. There was another one that I loved, too, and got dropped by them after philanthropy day but it didn't bother me as much as this particular one. And in a way, I feel like I'm almost grieving the loss of it. I can't help but just go through pictures after pictures of girls I know who got bids from them or just girls in general in that sorority and just wishing I had that. I even had a dream the other night that my sorority let me switch over to theirs...it's hard. I love the girls I've met in my sorority so far, I do. But I'm just having a hard time getting over it.

I really am trying to appreciate what I have but I'm just having a really hard time with it right now. I keep thinking what if, and what I did wrong, and why I got dropped, and trying to adjust to this sorority when really I wasn't feeling it from the beginning and have some general dislike about it that won't ever change. For example, I hate our color and the entire house is painted that color, so I can never get away from that. I hate our hand signs and I hate a particular word in our name and want to cringe every time I say the full name of the sorority I'm in. I know it just sounds shallow and I'm probably going to get some rude responses saying how I should be thankful I'm in one and all of that. I'm just having a really, really hard time adjusting to what I feel like I lost and having a hard time seeing what I've gained. I just can't even go around campus without seeing a ton of girls walking around in the other sorority's gear and just always thinking about it. Any advice would be great, please. Thank you.

I have to admit that I am just sputtering over this. YOU ARE FRIGGING KIDDING ME!! Do you remember NOTHING that you said prior to rush?? How you had a low GPA and were not sure that any sorority would give you a bid? How you were open minded & would be so happy to accept a bid to any house?

Originally Posted by ngsu

Originally Posted by ngsu
I understand I'm facing cuts and that's okay, I know everyone goes through cuts. I just want to get a bid, that's all.

Originally Posted by ngsu

We have 7 chapters at our school, and I would be happy to get a bid from 6 of them.

Which window did all of those statemetns get flung out of?

Apparently you took not a WORD of our advice last time. Why ask us for more?

BTW, ladies, remember to QFP!