Identifying where you definitely do NOT belong.

[Ducks]

My daughter is going away to a school with no one from high school or our community. She has no preconceived ideas about the reputations of the sororities there. Reading through these posts, this seems to be a good thing/keep an open mind.

But, with formal recruitment being such a controlled setting / "in a bubble" ...how will my daughter be able to identify the 'party' sororities?

DD is a pretty blonde who wants to avoid being an unhappy pnm in a class of only 30, where she's only 1 or 2 who don't party.
She certainly can't ask at recruitment- "Do you all party and drink a lot?", and is afraid of seeming prudish if she mentions in recruitment party conversation that she doesn't like to drink or hook up with guys.

For the last 50 years, the reality is that on most campuses, a few sororities have a majority of members with a very 'party' mentality. She's not judging, it's not even a moral issue for my daughter, she just wants to avoid them.

These posts imply "Don't listen to the talk you'll hear around campus about each sorority". So, I would be so grateful for your thoughts on how during Fall Formal Recruitment my daughter will go about identifying these sororities that are definitely not for her, despite their members having great manners and great conversation about their philanthropys.