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Originally Posted by TonyB06
uggh, that sounds messy. Is there anyway your husband can take the lead in explaining to your (his) parents the length of time is too great?
I'd think his mom would buy into your adament position of not having the baby not in the room with you. I'm not a pet person at all so I completely feel the veto on life with the dogs. I'd be screaming from the rooftops, but appreciate your willingness to keep the peace. 
As far as the parents visiting, it sounds like one set lives in the same city as you/hubby and the other set lives away? if so, what, logically, could the miffedness (made up word of the day) be based on? |
Well, we lucked out, I suppose. He's not able to take vacation that week anyway (last man on the totem pole to choose vacation weeks and all August is snapped up).
Since that last post, the "competitiveness" has gotten worse. Both sets of parents live almost equal distance away - 3 for mine, 3.5 for his. So the miffedness (I like it!) is merely because my parents were here twice before they were. His mom is also now hurt that she wasn't "invited" to spend 3 weeks here after the baby was born like my mom was. MIL has all sons and just doesn't seem to realize that a woman and her mom have a certain bond over having a baby. My mom was here to help me - I'm a first time mom and this is a big adjustment! It's something you just learn from your own mom and you can't just "invite" someone else to do it.
We had both families up for our daughter's christening and my mom and sister helped me get the house ready and cook things the day before. Again, his mom was hurt over this - because apparently I'm supposed to have all of my guests clean my house for me the day before a party. :-p She sulked all through the party and she and FIL really ruined the day (the party at least. The baptism itself was beautiful).
Then she pissed me off by telling us how she'd told a friend of hers that our daughter is named after some random great-aunts in DH's family - she's not, she's named after my great-grandmother and we didn't even know about these great-aunts until we told ILs her name! She didn't even appreciate the fact that daughter's middle name is for her own mother, but she has to "steal" the first name?!
We haven't seen them since the baptism, which is fine by me. I feel like they drag my husband down with their guilt trips and constant negativity, and I don't want that for my daughter. I know I can't avoid them forever, but I'd like to try to mitigate the crazy.
Wow, that was quite a vent...
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