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Originally Posted by ModernMajor
It starts to get into a grey area there. My guess is that my fraternity would insist that each pledge be able to hand out whatever they want. So if we do roses and freezy pops every pledge gets to decide which to give (regardless of gender). I feel like that system would result in very few roses getting handed out. (That is a reflection on the shyness of our male pledges, not the quality of the female sorority members. lol)
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Well, you kind of have to make a choice with this if you want your guests to be comfortable or if you want to honor your perfect group equality.
If you stick with your internal group equality, then I've afraid you have to accept that by doing the non-traditional thing, some of the sorority women won't want to participate with your group, and you probably aren't helping yourself with expanding your social role on campus with the other greek groups.
Do you think other people generally say, oh, let's have a social with the group that doesn't care if they make us uncomfortable and where the heterosexual dudes won't talk to girls?
ETA: I may not understand the campus culture enough, but, if you aren't doing the traditional thing, I don't think the particular gift matters that much. If this tradition is kind of a courtship deal, then same-sex gift giving is going to be different than the other groups. If you all just want to honor the new pledge classes and not be anti-social, send them a cake at their houses or something.
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