Honestly, I don't ask. I just wait for it to eventually come out. Personally, when it comes to dating, I'm very transparent and I expect the same from the man I am dating. I also don't think anything is wrong with a guy who may have slept with a lot of women, it's just that he wouldn't be the guy for me. I have a standard, and I've never apologized to guys I've dated for keeping a standard, instead, I let it be my guidepost. I just think it's important to separate my options and decide (when dating) if the man standing before me is conducive to how I see my life moving forward. If he's more of a distraction than an asset and is causing me to stray from my course, then I'll end it and move on. A guy with a high number of sexual partners is a distraction and not an asset for me. On the flip side of that, just because he is not the one for me does not make him a bad person, nor does it mean he will not be perfect for someone else. I just think that sex was designed to be a response to love, not a foundation for it. Pretty much the cement and seal of an already established relationship.
It also aggravates me when couples try to compare what they accept in the opposite sex to what other couples accept and do not accept. Be happy with you and yours. Not everyone has the same personal preferences. IMO, I just think that it helps when people have similar backgrounds and share complimentary goals and values. Two becoming one is a lot easier to achieve when both parties are walking in the same direction. So, what might work really well with one couple may not work well with another.
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