Are you @#$%ing kidding me??

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I just think it's important to be able to relate to each other as more than "mom and dad." At some point, your kids move out and you need to have more than life as parents to stay together.

I agree with this. To avoid making too broad a starement, I'll just say that my wife and I have decided that for us and our family, our relationship comes first -- or at leads needs to. Keeping it that way can be a major struggle sometimes, especially when one of the kids has needs that require more attention and can become all-consuming. But aside from the question of what happens after the kids are gone, we feel that for us putting spouse first models a view marriage that we want our kids to have.