HELP! Big/Little problems :(

[agzg]

I don't understand... after initiation, the big/little (or in my case, sister-mother/sister-daughter) relationship should be much less important, no? I mean, you can still be close, and you can love your tree or whatever, but any sister would be welcomed to do nice things for any other sister (the decorating the door, etc.) - why does it have to be your big doing it for you or you doing it for your little?

My sister-mother was particularly close with three other women at the time I was a new member, and as a result, I became close with them as a NM. Two of those three, plus my sister-mother, are probably 3 of my best friends ever. In fact, I'll have been in all three of their weddings, once my sister-mother gets married next fall.

If you have personal problems with the people doing the potential "poaching" it shouldn't be her problem unless family trees are being rearranged. If my sister-mother had transferred I don't think she would have been upset if I continued to be very close with the other women I was close with in the chapter. If you have personal problems with those trying to "adopt" your little, really that's a problem with you and that person, and is something that should have no bearing on your big/little relationship (and getting possessive about your little is actually pretty petty, IMO).

I guess what I'm saying is, why can't she have close friendships with the people who she chooses to have them with after you leave? Is she supposed to become some sort of loner at that point?