should i stay...or should i go?

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by jojocircus

hi,
i'm not looking for anyone to give me a definite answer, b/c i know that's not possible, but i am in a very strange situation regarding "my" sorority. i say "my" b/c i was never officially initiated..and recruitment is coming up.

sorry...im trying to find the words to explain my situation, but basically due to a number of things i was not initiated and its supposed to happen in the fall. i should be excited abt this, however they were not my first choice..or even my second. i said i would except the bid b/c i thought i would get my first choice(not smart/nice i knw)everyone kept telling me to just go through new member period to see how i felt...now they're telling me to get initiated and see if my feelings change as an active. problem is if i get initiated thats it. if i dnt like it i cant go anywhere else so now is my only chance. it is not as if these are bad girls, or if i dont believe in some of the things they stand for, but i always thought the sorority you are in is supposed to feel like"family" and when i go to my sorority house it should feel like home. i have yet to make any true connections(its been a year!) should it be this hard? how did you feel when you accepted you bid?how do you feel now?

i knw this was a lot to read so any advice, or experiences would be greatly appreciated

So basically your question is whether you should initiate or drop and re-rush instead? Why in the world would you think re-rerushing would bring you better results? Last time, you didn't get a bid from your first and second choices. This time you will also have the burden of being damaged goods; not only someone who was a new member and dropped, but someone who couldn't even meet the basic requirements to be initiated.

I think if you are that uncomfortable, you should drop completely, but understand that you most likely will never be a sorority member again (at least as long as you stay on that campus.)

Someone who has or knows the Green Book could probably answer the legalities of this too. If someone is a new member like this and somehow gets held over without being initiated, would they be eligible for fall recruitment anyway?