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Originally Posted by thetygerlily
One of my big ones is smoking. Both of my parents smoke, and I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. I think some smokers are fairly ignorant about how what they do affects others. There's the argument of "I'm only hurting myself, it's my choice"- but I can smell it on you, I know you did it, and yes it does affect me. And when it's in close proximity, yes it does hurt me through secondhand smoke. And just because you doused yourself in cologne and stood outside for 10 minutes in 20 degree weather? Oh yeah, that stench is still there (btw I'm also allergic to fragrance/cologne, sweet). My dad bathed my dog in cologne once so I wouldn't be able to smell it... thanks for trying, dad. I suppose one step further, don't say you're trying to quit if you're not. I get that it's hard, but don't tell me you're quitting as I hear you take a puff on the other end of the phone. So rational or irrational, I innately judge on smoking.
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Oh thank heaven. I'm not the only one. I'm not allergic to smoke, but I wear gas permeable contacts and I just cannot be around smoke or it dries them up something awful. I've even found that if I'm near someone who is a heavy smoker and/or the smell clings to their clothes, my eyes will get dry.
My boyfriend smoked when I first met him (although I wouldn't have known it if he hadn't told me - he never did it around me and the smell did not cling to him at all) but quit about a month into our relationship. It was tough for him at first - and he's surrounded by smokers at work so that doesn't help - and I felt like his smoking friends weren't being much help. One flat-out gave him crap about quitting and others would smoke like chimneys around him in social settings. I know they have a right to smoke, but it seems to me if you were a supportive friend, you wouldn't be blowing smoke in the face of someone trying to quit. It got so bad one time we were out with a group that we had to leave (for both our sakes). So I guess I'm judgmental on that front.
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