A few questions...help please?

[AXOrushadvisor]

I completely understand why you would want to know all these questions. Going through recruitment can be a mysterious process and I don't think we always do a good job at preparing our PNM's for the process. I'll attempt to answer your questions and be nice.

You don't really "eliminate" the Chapters you rank them- I think we give you the false impression that if you list them last you will not be invited back. This is not the case. I'm assuming you had a full schedule because there are 12 Chapters at UC Irvine. You went to 12 then ranked them and got 9- great! Then you ranked your 9 and you got 4 back! Still very good progress. I would bet my last dollar you have a better schedule than 1/2 the girls going through recruitment. No Chapters are "desperate" for women. Recruitment is a mutual selection process and every chapter has a different number of total women. The houses that you think are desperate will have just as big of a new member class as any other group on Campus AND they will be a group of wonderful women- trust me on this one. I would strongly suggest you go through the process and join a group. Why do you want to miss a year of sisterhood, dances, date parties and all the super fun stuff that goes on???

Membership selection is a private matter, but usually groups are all "looking" for similar things. On someones thread they gave you some really good examples of what Chapters may be looking for. My group happens to be very open about what we look for and it is listed on our National web site.

If you are a legacy we know you're a legacy. Being a legacy does not mean your going to get an invitation back to any party except after the first round (I believe most if not all groups courtesy invite back legacies) If you were a legacy to a Chapter and they released you it is just a part of recruitment. Being a legacy is no guarantee for membership. Some PNM's go into parties thinking if they are a legacy they are a shoe in. That can be the kiss of death and it is a fast path to being released.

My advice to you is to fully participate with the groups you have. Be nice get to know the girls in the 4 houses you have left. You might find a real connection with 1 or 2 of them. We read about that all the time on this site. Stop listening to all the gossip. In my experience this has gotten PNM's into more trouble. Good luck to you.