sigh: my daughter was kicked out of her chapter

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Originally Posted by violetpretty

I liked the no-boys spending the night at the house rule as a collegiate and I like it now. First, it is a risk management liability. Sorority houses are not like dorms, we leave our bedroom doors unlocked, or maybe even cracked open while we sleep. We rightly trust our sisters not to steal from us or cause us harm. Some random guy you bring home from the bar might be a serial rapist/killer/thief.

Second, who is to draw the line to say when a guy is able to be trusted? Does he have to have the "boyfriend" title? Can he be a fuckbuddy who the girl has known since high school? There isn't really a clear place to draw the line on that, and it doesn't seem fair to allow some boys to spend the night and others not. Consistency.

Third, I really don't want my roommate getting it on while I am trying to sleep. Especially if we have bunkbeds. A lot of women might hesistate to say that it upsets them, because they don't want their roommates to be mad at them. It's a respect issue, and again an issue of consistency. If I am away for the night, and my roommate would have the room to her self, it doesn't seem fair to allow her to have a guy over and not others.

Fourth, if you need to hook up, you can do it at his place.

It all boils down to joining a group and agreeing to abide by the rules of the group. This rule is designed to protect members of the group, as well as be fair and promote respect.

Agreed to all of the above. We have man visiting hours for every floor. Any floor that has girl's rooms ends at around 5 or 6 so they can get ready for bed/to go out etc. If you need to study you have till midnight and can use the formal room or dining room. During the day you still need to announce that there is a guy on the floor.
The roommate sleeping situation isn't something we have to worry about since we all sleep on a sleeping porch, but we have outside rooms. Most girls study in them and also have futons or couches inside to make it cozy. I would kill my roommate if I was sexiled from my room. My boyfriend is from out of town and I wouldn't do/have not done that.