sigh: my daughter was kicked out of her chapter

[paulam]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

Whether or not the OP's daughter felt the no-shacking rule was silly/ridiculous/overly restrictive/etc., she knew that there was a no-shacking rule in place. She chose to live in the sorority house, and by doing so, she chose to abide by certain rules, including no overnight male guests (or no men above the first floor or whatever the specific rule was). She chose to break that rule, and now she has to accept the consequences.

As for the OP, you need to cut the apron strings. Your daughter is an adult. That means she gets to make her own decisions, make her own mistakes, and accept the consequences of those mistakes.

Two words...Ted Bundy!!!! Who knows what the guy was like? The offending roommate had no right to bring a man into a room that she did not live in alone, especially when she knew that was not acceptable behavior for a member of the sorority. I have a feeling that may not have been the first time and maybe the defending roommate had just had enough! Can you imagine having to listen to that while you are trying to sleep? Ugh!

My kids are in their 30's and I still feel the need to rush in and solve all their problems but I restrain myself and let them make their mistakes. So far, they have not disappointed. I guess I taught them well (patting myself on the back!).

Paula M.
Sigma Delta Tau
Patrae Multi Spes Una
One Hope of Many People

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by paulam

Two words...Ted Bundy!!!!

I know I shouldn't pick a nit, but I'm gonna do it anyway. Ted Bundy broke into the Chi Omega house through a back door; he wasn't a guest of a sister. Your point remains, and I agree, that you have to think about the safety of others in group living situations.