Do Sororities Really Want You To Try Again?

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Originally Posted by epchick

Wait, so you went through recruitment in the Fall, got a bid (that you didn't like) and then went through COB the following Spring?

Even though you declined your bid, you are NOT allowed to rush for a whole calendar year, so you were not eligible for a bid in the Spring (if you had just gone through rush in the Fall). So although we don't know why you weren't chosen for a bid, your ineligibility might have been a big factor.

That's what I was thinking!

There's really no way to know if you were released for a "reason" or if there just weren't compelling reasons to keep you at your chapters of choice (i.e. PNMs the chapters knew better, freshmen they liked better). Do sophomores regularly get bids at your school? There's no way to know if the women were just trying to be nice by encouraging you to try again or if they really meant it (and even then, no individual can guarantee you a bid because one person doesn't decide who gets bids).

I think some PNMs come off as desperate by their strange behavior (see the "Weird Rush Stories" and "Psycho/Stalker PNMs" threads) rather than the mere fact that they are coming through again.