Advice for a fellow Sister (very long!)

[33girl]

To be quite frank, it sounds as though what you suffered in college was complete culture shock. The East Coast and West Coast are very different - plus it sounds like you were raised fairly upper middle class - and if you were a deb and got into a chapter that was filled with girls who DIDN'T have that kind of upbringing, it's going to be hard to fit in. Not to mention the fact that you were older than many of the sisters.

As far as the situation with the sister you moved in with, I'm guessing you don't mean into the house? It sounds as though you took what was an off-campus, out-of-house roommate situation and turned it into a sorority situation. This was not the best course of action and I can understand why other sisters may have been upset that you made it a sorority issue, rather than trying to work it out with your roommate on your own.

I would contact your sorority's national office and see if you can get in touch with an alumnae chapter. If there are several in your area, you may have the option of joining the one that suits you best.

Good luck.