Legacy Dilemma

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

When we say "research" we mean you walk into Rush knowing at minimum--and preferably the entire website of information with focus on the programs/initiatives Internationally, locally, at the undergraduate level and graduate level if that is what you have.

The answer to your follow question is below in response to Ladygreek's response:



Ladygreek, some of the comments are meant for EVERYONE...

That's the thing, a mother ought not be promoting her membership in her sorority if she is not active in an NPHC sorority... That is my personal opinion. Because WE ALL PROMOTE LIFELONG MEMBERSHIP...

In my opinion it is a detriment to the daughter when she has failed to teach her right... Like what to wear at Rush, appropriate and respectful behavior toward the members while on campus. How is one going to aspire to become a member and disrespect said members by refusal to attend ANY FREE on-campus functions?

No, I am not saying that a mother "help" her daughter get into said D4 sorority--that is helicopterish--she ought not have "guaranteed" her membership like that. If she wanted her daughter to pursue membership so bad, then how come her daughter never attended a grad chapter function, talk to the UGs while in high school, go to Regional Conferences and International Meetings? Hayle, these kids apply for our scholarships, but where's the payback?

It is gotten to the point where we have to KNOW these kids and their families before they "stroll" into our Sororities--before they get into college...

I have been to some of the regional events and participated in HS programs. I've also been to some grad functions as a guest of my program sponsor so I have some background. But what I dont get is why would my mother care where I joined? She hasnt been active in 30+ years yet I mention I might do some more research on the other 3 or *gasp* NPC she looks at me like I went nuts. I flat out asked her what she thought of me joining one of the NPCs and she said "why?" This goes for my friend and BF, their familes are flipping out at the thought of them not following in their footsteps when they joined at a different time period/different campus and the chapters on our campuses might not be good fits for us.

Question for legacies out there...was there ever any pressure to join by family members or was it just happenstance that it was a good fit for you too?