Single ladies, how do you respond to "why aren't you married yet?"

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Don't get me wrong, I want to get married and I want to have kids. But as my dad so kindly pointed out to me "you don't need to be married to have a child all you need is a sperm bank" (thanks dad). But the reality is, he's right. If the right guy comes along, great! But I've come to the point in my life that I'm not going to put any of my dreams on hold, I'm going to achieve them, whether I'm married or not.

I have yet to be asked why I'm not married yet, being that I'm only 22 and still have a year left of undergrad. But, I so often get, "Why don't you have a boyfriend?" or "Why aren't you dating?"

How about...BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO. I made the choice not to date when my last boyfriend broke up with me. After three years of revolving my life around someone so much that I literally lost myself--I'm not going to jump into another relationship with just some random John. I decided not to date and it's been the best two years I've ever had. I've worried about ME, WHAT I WANT TO DO, WHERE I WANT TO GO, SPENDING MY TIME HOW I WANT TO SPEND IT.

I'm still finding myself and digging myself out of the horrible hole I let him put me in, but for the first time in 5 years I know myself, accept myself, and love myself. I don't need a man to validate me, tell me I'm gorgeous--I can do all of that myself--FOR FREE.

I'm not rushing into a boyfriend and I'm not going to rush into marriage. And, I don't need kids--I have two chinchillas to care for.