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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS
You're not "sure" because you "wouldn't know."  |
hahah yeah but I personally wouldn't have a problem and I know most of my sisters wouldn't as well.
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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle
First, not "sweet" - South West Texas.
Harsh? Naw - not even bitter. You were the one who said that this thread made you sad, because you had a tattoo and lip ring and were glad you got a bid because they saw the "real you" - and that's all you said. You've actually proven my point - I guess I should say "thank you". I didn't judge you by anything than what you've written - because that's all I had. So your misspellings and the fact you have a tattoo and a lip ring are all I've had to use to form an opinion. You didn't mention the aspects of your character you have now stated. So - my point? People can only judge you with the information they have. Over the internet - your postings. In a recruitment situation - your registration sheet, your recs, your appearance and conversations with sisters. You actually support my assertions again by saying you know when to cover up and remove your lip ring. How is that different than suggesting that in a SEC recruitment a pnm would be well-advised to do the same?
While the first sentence was directed to you, you'll notice that the second paragraph was very carefully directed to all 18 - 22 year olds who feel they should be able to dress however they wish with no repercussions. The mohawk was a hypothetical example of an extreme style that might not be appropriate in certain situations.
I taught AP English and was a senior homeroom teacher at a private school for years, so I've heard lots of whining about having to wear a uniform or have your hair a certain way. I've always maintained that the important part of you - the part that should really be individualistic - is the part we can't see. I always got a chuckle out of the non-conformists who all . . . dressed alike.
So back to the op - cover up the tattoo so they see YOU and not your tattoo.
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The point I'm trying to make is yes I see your point about appearence and how we're judged in the real world and I share it when it comes to work or anything that's professionally related. If you're paying me, then I can follow a "guideline" or whatever.
However, joining a sorority for me was a different matter. If they didn't accept me for who I was appearance at all then that's not a group I wanted to be a part of to tell you the truth. I'm lucky my future sisters didn't judge me on my appearence and I feel very safe and comfortable with them. Is that what a real sisterhood should be anyways?
Threadstarter....do what you feel is comfortable to you. Yes, Bama is very conservative and unfournately you may be judged. Do whatever is right by you because ultimately you don't want to be a part of a group that you have to hide a part of yourself from, right?
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