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Originally Posted by SthrnZeta
so it seems wrong to say, honey, shell out some more for a ring while you're at it, ya know?
And BTW, he'll be gone for a whopping 15 months!
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Originally Posted by Army Wife'79
Seriously, you need to get a ring on your finger, even if it's only a quarter carat.
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I'm probably going to say something that won't be very popular...
why MUST there be a
ring to be engaged? In my own experience, I got engaged to my now-husband without a ring. He had no money for such frivolity, but I loved him and knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. And I was sure in the fact that he loved and cherished me. If you say the words, "Will you marry me?" or "Will you spend the rest of your life with me?" or something to that effect, and the answer is yes, then why does there have to be a piece of jewelry?
A house together seems like a HUGE commitment! So, in my eyes, SthrnZeta, you're already "more than a girlfriend." Deployments are a long, hard road. While I know that I advocated for an engagement before he left for certain reasons having to do with making life dealing with the Army easier, it may be a time for you to really reflect. This surely won't be the only deployment your guy has if he stays in. This may be a good test for you to see if you can really handle a life with a soldier. It's not for the faint of heart.
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