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Originally Posted by Still BLUTANG
i am worried sick about one of my girls.
last night she called and told me she wasn't sure if she was going to make it too much longer. she's started planning her OWN funeral, and she's just "not in the mood to deal with too much more." - - her words.
i know i can't "make" her talk to a professional, but are there any suggestions as to convincing a loved one to seek help / therapy?
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What happened to your friend? Did she ever get help?
The professionals call it "defraying". Usually, it works best on a very angry person. If there is an issue, one can "defray" its escalation by redirecting what the person is doing or thinking--usually, doing something totally different that expected.
For example:
A friend of mine was a counselor at a teen home for abused children with mental disorders, one of the young men was angry about something and the anger escalated.
So rather than breaking it up, my friend asked the angry young man, "Hey, do you want to help me get this Christmas Tree outside?" (He said it in terms of a directive--which is key). The young man, thought about it and left with my friend to remove him from the anger escalation.
That way, a trained professional can calmly talk with the client to get one side of what is going on... Defraying any ensuing fight.
We can always practice diplomacy and conflict resolution...
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