what do i have to give back?

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

I agree that it's an honor system. I think that the OP, no matter what she is able to keep, should be aware that she shouldn't not wear or use any of the items once she gives up membership. If she decides not to join, she shouldn't present herself as a member or affiliated.

When my last sis-dot depledged, it was really hard because she was a very enthusiastic NM that jumped at every chance to get involved. She DP-ed because her family (who initially helped to support her AGD finances) ran into some financial trouble back home. She was heartbroken and didn't want to DP, but she really had no choice.

She asked me the same question and I told her that she needed to turn in her pledge pin and NM manual/workbook. She was welcome to keep the gifts I gave her in addition to the stuff she got on Bid Night as long as she agreed not to falsely represent herself as an AGD.

I knew that she was an honest person who we could trust, and I had no problem letting her keep the stuff. Even though she's since moved back to San Diego, we still keep in touch to this day. She keeps her AGD stuff in keepsake box that she brings out from time to time. It's nice knowing that she can still fondly look back at her short time as an AGD New Member.

So..while I can see the reasoning behind giving the lettered things back, I really think it depends on the circumstances of the DP and what kind of person he/she is.