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Originally Posted by carnation
A member checked and D is definitely not a DEF. I doubt she ever was; she's too status-conscious to terminate and she wouldn't have done anything to get kicked out--you'd have to know her.
Here's something ironic that popped up this week. She has a chance to be AIed into another group that she has ties to. Haha! I'm sure she's dying to but then she'd have to figure a way to gloss over her earlier story to the women around here. ("Did I say I was a DEF? Oh, what was I thinking, I'm an ABC!")
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carnation, is it possible that she pledged DEF, but did not actually initiate? Maybe that's why she partly thinks of herself as a DEF.
I don't know the situation nor all of the details, but looking at the posts that everyone has made so far & the information provided, there's been a lot of assumptions being made about how things appear. I also wonder if these other women who claim that D said that she was a DEF got the details confused? It's entirely possible - sometimes the recall of others is not 100% accurate.
If you want this woman to come clean, she will likely need to feel safe before she will speak her truth.
Just my $0.02.
PS You could also play dumb and ask her, "Do you think that you will AI into ABC? To do so, you cannot have initiated into any other NPC group. Did you initiate into any other NPC group during college?" and then see what she says. If she says no, ask her if she ever had any ties to DEF? And then see what she says. My point is, if you ask her anything where she might get defensive, you might not get the straight up answer.
good luck and let us know what happens, as I'm curious now - LOL.
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