Relationship - Taking a Break

[arizona13]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I wasn't speaking of marriage, but since it's been brought up, I would have to agree with AKA Monet. Yes, breaks are needed in a marriage. Sometimes we need that alone time, but I think the OP was saying that people will say they need a break, in other words lets break up for a while and then get back together later. My response to that is NO. That's unacceptable. I would tell her don't come back because I won't be there. Like I said before there are no breaks. o.k. here's the deal and I know you guys are going to think I'm this possessive stalker from hell, well I'm not, but I do take relationships very seriously and this is why. When I go out with a woman on the 1st date, I'm not just going out with her just to be going out with her. The physical attraction is the 1st thing that's going to get me to go out with her in the 1st place, and then from that point on is when I'll try to see if she and I are compatible. I've never casual dated. I only date one woman at a time and I expect the same from her. If we're not compatible then move on to the next. I believe in one man for one woman and vise versa for long term to marriage. None of this lets take a break because we're having problems or I think we should meet new people. o.k. Why? I've said this in another thread, but I've been this way since puberty. Seriously, when I was 17, if my ex in highschool didn't cut me a loose, I would still be with her to this day. She thought since I was going to college that I would be more interested in college girls than her. She was two years younger than me. Anyway, she was wrong. I would have never done that. I would have only been interested in her. See, it's problems like this that confuse me. Why break up if you don't have to. If there's no cheating, and no abuse then what's the point. This is why I say there should be no breaks. There's too much of this going on today and I think this is a huge contribution to the high divorce rate. I hate that when people say, "I think we should meet new people." I think we need to take a break." "Why?" "Because it's just not working out." "But why?" See, this is what the conversation is like. There is no reason why. It's flat out stupid, and pointless. That's why I say don't come back. I'll move on to someone who has the same thinking about relationships as I do. In a marriage, you've got to work it out or don't get married. Marriage takes sacrifice. Pre-marital relationships do too, just not as much sacrifice. Why would you say I need a break just to go date other people? What? You think that's going to be better? A joker that does that is just going to keep going from one relationship to the next. In a marriage it's fine to have fun with friends because it's not like you're splitting up. Breaking up for no reason is pointless.

I think I'm in love.