switching fraternites!! help!!

crottychop · #1 02-03-2011, 03:45 PM

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FleurGirl · #2 02-03-2011, 03:57 PM

1) You are leaving them but they aren't your brothers if you aren't initiated.
2) No one can tell you what other fraternities will think.
3) If living in a house is your only reason for being in a fraternity, you may want to reevaluate why you're there.

33girl · #3 02-03-2011, 03:58 PM

Other fraternities will think you're a disloyal asshole if you leave your brothers over something like a HOUSE. (Why do you need to rely on nationals and alumni, anyway?)

But go ahead and quit, if that's the most important thing to you. I doubt your brothers would want you around if they read this post.

Psi U MC Vito · #4 02-03-2011, 03:58 PM

Dude, I think you need to really evaluate why you want to go Greek in the first place. Not having a house or living in house is not that big a deal. Especially since you are in college for 4 years and a Brother for the rest of your life.

ETA: Two different people beat me to it.

Ghostwriter · #5 02-03-2011, 04:00 PM

I am sorry but I think you would be making a big mistake. I don't know your school or how big the Fraternities are but I would think that word would go around about what you are doing and it would seriously damage your credibility and/or worth. If you depledge do so for better reasons other than the lack of a house. You knew the chapter didn't have one when you pledged.

AlphaFrog · #6 02-03-2011, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by crottychop

ok so im part of a social fraternity... we were promised a house by nationals and by our alumni... turns out we arent getting one.. for the second year in a row and its getting really disspointing....

my situation:
im not initiated yet.. so i have the freedom to switch.. but i feel like im kinda leaving my brothers and walking away from my investment in my fraternity.
but i want to live in a house.....(and i highly doubt were getting one next year...)

so im thinking of switching but do u think other fraternites will like it if i tell them im switching?

Of course they're not going to like it. Especially for your reason. If a house was a make it/break it, you should have considered that during rush.

knight_shadow · #7 02-03-2011, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Ghostwriter

I am sorry but I think you would be making a big mistake. I don't know your school or how big the Fraternities are but I would think that word would go around about what you are doing and it would seriously damage your credibility and/or worth. If you depledge do so for better reasons other than the lack of a house. You knew the chapter didn't have one when you pledged.

Co-sign

lucgreek · #8 02-03-2011, 05:00 PM

Coming from a campus where no groups currently have houses (and the national organizations flat out told each of their groups no way in hell), this makes me

Did the brothers explicitly tell you when you rushed that the group would be getting a house? As in they said, "Our national organization and alumni said we will be getting a house next year so you will get the chance to be there for it." If you were told that during rush, I can understand the feeling of having a bait and switch pulled.

HOWEVER,

If it was never explicitly guaranteed when you were rushing, you're ridiculous. A brotherhood is more than just a physical house. If a house was so important, why did you join this group in the first place?

I don't know your campus, but if someone depledged because their group didn't have a house, I wouldn't think of giving him a bid.

MysticCat · #9 02-03-2011, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by crottychop

im not initiated yet.. so i have the freedom to switch..

No, you don't have the freedom to switch, you have the freedom to quit.

Your ability to switch depends totally on the willingness and desire of another chapter to extend you a bid. Given your description of why you want to "switch," I'd guess pigs will fly before another chapter would want to extend you a bid.

SydneyK · #10 02-03-2011, 05:19 PM

Dude, ignore all the haters.

You should clearly switch. You obviously aren't in a top tier fraternity anyway (or else it would already have a house), so you have no where to go but up. Seriously, what's to think about? Quit.

moe.ron · #11 02-03-2011, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by SydneyK

Dude, ignore all the haters.

You should clearly switch. You obviously aren't in a top tier fraternity anyway (or else it would already have a house), so you have no where to go but up. Seriously, what's to think about? Quit.

I agree, OP should announced loudly to the greek community in his school that he is available for free transfer.

Barbie's_Rush · #12 02-03-2011, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by moe.ron

I agree, OP should announced loudly to the greek community in his school that he is available for free transfer.

And loudly announce the reason to anyone who will listen. That way the loser fraternities that don't have a house will know he's too good for them and won't waste his time.

DeltaBetaBaby · #13 02-03-2011, 11:57 PM

I don't know what campus the OP on, but I am trying to be a bit understanding, here. If, for example, it is the only chapter without a house, and the chapter told him during rush that a house was imminent, I could understand his serious disappointment with finding out that isn't true.

33girl · #14 02-03-2011, 11:59 PM

My question is how he isn't initiated yet, but this is the "second year in a row" that "we" were promised this.

knight_shadow · #15 02-04-2011, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

My question is how he isn't initiated yet, but this is the "second year in a row" that "we" were promised this.

Good point.

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Originally Posted by crottychop

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