The question "when are you going to have kids?"

[christiangirl]

"Right now, I'm working on keeping my fish alive. Next, I'll try a dog. They don't call 'em 'baby steps' for nothin'!"

[jwright25]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one with this issue. I'll have to remember some of these - although now that I'm 35 and almost 11 years married, the constant nagging has subsided. I guess they figured it's too late.

Originally Posted by jessica.lanelle

When people ask why I don't have kids, I tell them that I can't put a kid in the back yard with a bowl of water and a chew toy while I go to the bar with my friends.

PRICELESS!

[IlovemyAKA]

LMBO!!! KSU, i LOVE this thread!!

Someone just asked me this question the other day, so that's what prompted my response in the other thread.

I've been dating a guy a few weeks. He's wonderful, but isn't that how it always is in the 1st few weeks? I happened to be on the phone with my grandma & mentioned that I had a date. Why did I do that? She got so excited & was like well "maybe..." I cut her off before she could get started.

I'm only 26 & not even close to engaged but I get this a lot. Here's one that stands out:

family member: Do you want kids?
Me: Yes. What I don't want is a baby daddy.
family member: Well, how are you going to have kids then?
Me: Well, I'd like to think that I'd have a husband.
family member:

[WVU alpha phi]

Originally Posted by jessica.lanelle

When people ask why I don't have kids, I tell them that I can't put a kid in the back yard with a bowl of water and a chew toy while I go to the bar with my friends.

I love it! I adopted my dog over a year ago and she's plenty of work for me right now.

[aephi alum]

I've vented more than once about the "when are you going to have kids?" thing.

DH and I are both only children, so the only way our parents can be grandparents is if we have kids. The ILs started in before the ink was even dry on the ketubah. My parents started dropping hints around the time I turned 30. We've each told our respective parents to back off, and so far they've honored that, but I think that as I approach 35 they'll start in again.

DH and I are also the only young couple without children in our congregation. It seems like everybody is waiting for us to have a baby or three. My favorite: "I'm looking forward to attending your child's bar mitzvah." (My response: "Don't hold your breath.") But I think they're starting to give up on us. We just celebrated our 10th anniversary, and no baby, so maybe they think we have fertility issues. I don't care what they think, as long as they're not pestering me to have a baby!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by IlovemyAKA

Me: Yes. What I don't want is a babydaddy.

Right!

Oh and while we're on the topic:

I hate hate hate this word.

When I hear this word, a part of me dies inside.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by lilsunshine214

On an ironic note, my ILs are discouraging us from trying right now. They love me and we're cool, but in their opinion we should settle into marriage, finish school, and stabilize more financially before we consider bringing another person into this world. I really like the fact that though they already have 2 grandchildren they're not looking at me like human incubator for what they want.

Can I trade ILs with you?

[epchick]

So my friends and I were eating dinner and talking about who would be the next one to have a kid (the only one in our group that has a kid is my friend's 18 yr old sister)....apparently it's gonna be me.

It doesn't matter that i'm the ONLY one who isn't having/or had sex and it doesn't matter that i'm the only one who is single, but according to my friends i'm next. Sperm bank anyone? I'm not THAT desperate people.

Then today I was walking around Target w/ my aunt and cousin, and we passed by the baby section. Of course I "oohed" and "awwed" at the baby clothes like I always do, and my aunt said "you need to have a baby soon! A little girl would be so adorable" I almost keeled over. At least I know one family member who wouldn't shit a brick if I ended up pregnant soon

[Jill1228]

People have finally gotten the subtle hint. I have told them the following: if it happens I will tell you when I am damned good and ready (it sucks having to "untell" people). Other than that, don't f*cking ask!

[baci]

I would just kindly tell them it is on your "bucket list" and then smile. It is not worth your being frustrated or tossing out a foolish reply. I like to stand taller in situations like this!

[lilzetakitten]

Originally Posted by Jill1228

People have finally gotten the subtle hint. I have told them the following: if it happens I will tell you when I am damned good and ready (it sucks having to "untell" people). Other than that, don't f*cking ask!

That's funny, because my dad gave me that line to use if people started asking! "When are you going to have kids?" "WIDGAR! When I'm damned good and ready!" So far I've been nicely stating "John and I will have kids when we're ready to be parents." We're 23 and we look 16, so people (especially random acquaintances that feel the need to ask!) take the hint really fast.

[AOII_LB93]

Why are my reproductive habits so enthralling for the women at work?
A newer mom (10mo old baby) made the comment today "What are you waiting for, you should just have babies!"
My response, "Did you start a trust fund for my future child?"
Hers "Oh you can do it on a limited budget, that's what we're doing."
Me "That was your choice." Then I walked away.

Seriously people - F-OFF about the kids thing, the husband and I will have them when we are able, thanks drive through. I think my next response is going to be, "Why is there an office pool?"

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

Hers "Oh you can do it on a limited budget, that's what we're doing."

People never cease to amaze me with their stupidity.

Talk to her again when it's time to shell out for daycare. Oh, and again when it's time for college.

[KSUViolet06]

My new fave answer: "When they come in self-cleaning and I can set them on auto-pilot."

[jdrama]

When I can afford to raise them and have the mental state to do so happy!