Unusual sighting- etiquette of it?

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Well guess what- I saw the gentleman wearing it today again.

He came to the reference desk asking for directions to a place. He barely spoke English- so we switched to my native language. Due to his accent, I could tell that he was not originally from the USA- this is probably relevant.

I asked him about his hat- if he had a daughter or friend in the GLO. He said the hat had been given to him. He seemed very confused when I asked him about the letters. I told him that they belonged to a sorority called "Upsilon Upsilon" (not its real name, of course). Transaction went well and he was always very polite- but I could tell that he had been given the hat as a clothing donation.

I know you probably don't realize this... BUT... You just may have embarrassed him for no good reason.

Are you just an idiot or a bitch? Because, you had a WHOLE thread of people telling you to LET IT GO. But, did you? NO. Scandia, you HAD to "inform" him of his hat's significance. If you knew he spoke Spanish as a first language, that due to his accent he was most likely NOT even originally from here, AND that it WAS most likely a DONATION -- why did you continue to bother him about it?

Did you think it would make the world better to inform him of his faux pas?

What is it you tried to accomplish? Because, all you really did was to (probably) make him self-conscious of wearing a hat that before had just been a hat. Now, he'll know that every time he wears it, someone may see the letters and confront him.

I SWEAR you have no fucking sense.

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

You need a hobby.

She has one... Remember the cosplay/doll thing she does... She just needs a life.

[Xidelt]

I hope the guy didn't walk away thinking, "Gee, great, now I'm wearing a hat with the name of some girl's club on it."

[kddani]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

I know you probably don't realize this... BUT... You just may have embarrassed him for no good reason.

Are you just an idiot or a bitch? Because, you had a WHOLE thread of people telling you to LET IT GO. But, did you? NO. Scandia, you HAD to "inform" him of his hat's significance. If you knew he spoke Spanish as a first language, that due to his accent he was most likely NOT even originally from here, AND that it WAS most likely a DONATION -- why did you continue to bother him about it?

Did you think it would make the world better to inform him of his faux pas?

What is it you tried to accomplish? Because, all you really did was to (probably) make him self-conscious of wearing a hat that before had just been a hat. Now, he'll know that every time he wears it, someone may see the letters and confront him.

I SWEAR you have no fucking sense.

Tippie, my compass points to you!

Originally Posted by kddani

Tippie, my compass points to you!

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Did you think it would make the world better to inform him of his faux pas?

I thought I felt a ripple in the Force today. And now all is well.

I feel safe knowing that the letter police are out and tactfully taking down evildoers everywhere.

[LadyLonghorn]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Well guess what- I saw the gentleman wearing it today again.

He came to the reference desk asking for directions to a place. He barely spoke English- so we switched to my native language. Due to his accent, I could tell that he was not originally from the USA- this is probably relevant.

I asked him about his hat- if he had a daughter or friend in the GLO. He said the hat had been given to him. He seemed very confused when I asked him about the letters. I told him that they belonged to a sorority called "Upsilon Upsilon" (not its real name, of course). Transaction went well and he was always very polite- but I could tell that he had been given the hat as a clothing donation.

What a great way to snatch away the dignity of an already downtrodden person in the name of petty personal interests. This poor man was given the hat out of kindness and for all you know could be the only one he owns. Thanks to you he gets to be self conscious about wearing it. Since he was polite in what was the undoubtedly uncomfortable situation you placed him in, it's good to see that one person in this "transaction" has an understanding of etiquette. I hope you are proud of yourself.

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by kddani

Tippie, my compass points to you!

Bwaaaahhhh. PRICELESS.

[LadyLonghorn]

In honor of sheet cake. To protect and serve.

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by Xidelt

I hope the guy didn't walk away thinking, "Gee, great, now I'm wearing a hat with the name of some girl's club on it."

I hope he did.

[indygphib]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

I know you probably don't realize this... BUT... You just may have embarrassed him for no good reason.

Are you just an idiot or a bitch? Because, you had a WHOLE thread of people telling you to LET IT GO. But, did you? NO. Scandia, you HAD to "inform" him of his hat's significance. If you knew he spoke Spanish as a first language, that due to his accent he was most likely NOT even originally from here, AND that it WAS most likely a DONATION -- why did you continue to bother him about it?

Did you think it would make the world better to inform him of his faux pas?

What is it you tried to accomplish? Because, all you really did was to (probably) make him self-conscious of wearing a hat that before had just been a hat. Now, he'll know that every time he wears it, someone may see the letters and confront him.

I SWEAR you have no fucking sense.

This thread just got a hell of a lot more interesting. Thanks Tippie!

[VandalSquirrel]

I guess my only issue is that since you're a public librarian (and regardless of GLO clothing), if he feels uncomfortable because you pointed out he has womens clothing on he may not come back to the library out of shame and he may need the resources a public library has to offer. If he is not a person with English as a first language and different cultural attitudes, that sort of nosiness may actually hinder what you try to accomplish as a librarian. My understanding is that you're supposed to help people, even if you're not a fan of what they want to kn ow or their choice in research, and send them on their merry way with warm librarian fuzzies.

So I guess this can also extend to someone who is questioning their gender, or in the midst of changing their gender, or is transgendered, and if they are coming to a public library with alleged equal access for all, it can be a huge problem. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE judging people (especially those with Goach bags or fugly crocs), but there is a time and place and I really think it goes against librarian ethics to ask him, especially once you realized English was not his first language. Maybe you disagree with say, premarital sex, but if a patron asks you for information, you're supposed to do it without judgment or comment.

Who's the librarian police, Nancy Pearl?

[epchick]

I <3 Tippiechick

[deepimpact2]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

I know you probably don't realize this... BUT... You just may have embarrassed him for no good reason.

Are you just an idiot or a bitch? Because, you had a WHOLE thread of people telling you to LET IT GO. But, did you? NO. Scandia, you HAD to "inform" him of his hat's significance. If you knew he spoke Spanish as a first language, that due to his accent he was most likely NOT even originally from here, AND that it WAS most likely a DONATION -- why did you continue to bother him about it?

Did you think it would make the world better to inform him of his faux pas?

What is it you tried to accomplish? Because, all you really did was to (probably) make him self-conscious of wearing a hat that before had just been a hat. Now, he'll know that every time he wears it, someone may see the letters and confront him.

I SWEAR you have no fucking sense.

1. Just because Scandia asked for thoughts on the situation did not mean that she had to do what people said to do.

2. Do you think you are representing yourself or any organization you may belong to by ranting like this? Is the profanity really necessary? No wait. A better question is why that kind of language is even allowed on the
board.

3. I think you all are making too big of a deal about what she did. It didn't sound like she humiliated him. It sounded more like they had a conversation and she simply told him what the significance was of the letters on the hat. So what? That wouldn't be the first time that someone informed someone who wasn't from this country about what something means.

[agzg]

The only relevant thing about his not being from the USA is that it makes you look like more of a condescending bitch.

Way to go! You've made the world safe for us greeks to wear our letters without worrying about people wearing items they probably received through charity!