whitelily needs advice

[whiteXseaXlily]

33girl- Glad I made you smile. I enjoy making people smile. I'm in the medical field and that's one of the things I hold closest to my heart. I ended up with an iced caramel latte. Yum, lol.

KSUViolet- You are an amazing resource for information. Thank you so much.

I am still working on getting transcripts and such for my new school and for the PA group I'll be contacting. Life is busy.

[whiteXseaXlily]

I haven't been around in quite some time, due to more chaos in my life. Who else would manage to come down with mono, have to change back to her other school because it offers more online classes, and have both grandparents in the ER/ICU during the same week?

I've pretty much given up on collegiate Greek life. I'll be at least 23 before I could go through another recruitment, and after the experience I had last week, I don't know if I could. I'd like some feedback from some of you out there on this.

I was sitting in a bookstore cafe, talking with one of my friends about Greek life. She was wondering if she would get a bid were she to rush; she was freaking out much like I would. I told her that it was never set in stone, but that if she didn't do it, she would always regret it. I then told her my story, about the broken promises among other things. She paled a bit and asked me if I had turned those girls in because that sounded like dirty rushing. I told her that I didn't because I believed those girls were my friends and that I loved their group so much, I didn't really care how I got in. I told her it all eventually led me to ESA and that sisterhood.

A woman was sitting at a table not too far from us seemed like she was listening. I thought maybe she was just nosy, so I just kept talking. The woman walked by and threw her trash away. On the way back to her table she stopped at mine. What she said next nearly blew me out of my seat.

"You have truly shown what being Greek is. After your experiences, you still kept pursuing your dream. And even though you didn't get the sorority you wanted, you found somewhere you fit in. If you still don't want to give up your dream, I believe there's a sisterhood out there for you. I know I would be proud to call you my sister."

She turned to my friend. "Your friend is right. You should give recruitment a chance. You may get a bid, or maybe not. It's what you take away from the experience that really matters."

I don't know much about her group, considering they aren't local to where I am. I don't know her name, or where she's from. I would guess that she was late twenties, early thirties. Should I just accept what she said, put it in the back of my mind for a rainy day, and move on?

I should have asked her if she used GC.

[KSUViolet06]

This is one of those things that is truly your decision. We all can give you our opinions, but really only YOU would know how much you'd really regret not trying recruitment again.

[justabostongirl]

I say go for it! I pledged with 2 girls that were 22, and there was a girl in another pledge class that was older than you are now! I think that age should not matter, but rather the personality and quality of the person going through. Good luck with whatever you decide!

[ASUADPi]

I say go for it! You have everything to gain and really nothing to lose!

[texas*princess]

You might as well try if it's something you really want.

If you don't get it, you don't get it, but at least you could say you tried as opposed to not trying and wondering if you would have got it.

It is obviously something you want, since you still talk about what happened at the other school years later...so I say go for it... 'cause if you don't, it sounds like it will consume your thoughts and you'll end up one of those crazy wanna-be AIs trying to fulfill their college dreamz.

[AlethiaSi]

I agree with what everyone has said on here, ultimately it is you who will be living with your decision and while it might be scary pursuing something like this as your older (some ppl would say that we would be more confident, but I suspect it's just as nerve wracking) but it's obviously something you've thought about for a long time. I think you should listen to that.

You have also had some serious hardships come your way, and you've managed to overcome them and persevere.

I am 24 right now, and I am still very active in my chapter and from what you can see on GC, most people are. I almost didn't end where I did, I pledged another organization, depledged and gave up pretty much. I took a "risk" at the time joining my organization (very low numbers, bad reputation,etc) , but it was the best thing I ever did. My point is, the risk might pay off, and if it doesn't, then you tried.
Good luck to you, I wish you the best, and I agree with what that woman said, I'd be proud to have you in my organization as well.

[whiteXseaXlily]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

It is obviously something you want, since you still talk about what happened at the other school years later...so I say go for it... 'cause if you don't, it sounds like it will consume your thoughts and you'll end up one of those crazy wanna-be AIs trying to fulfill their college dreamz.

I nearly fell out of my chair laughing at this. I knew about AI way before I ever knew about GC. One of the sisters of the sorority I wanted was actually the one who suggested it, after the whole disaster was over. However, it's not something to play lightly with and at this point in my life I'm not interested in going that route.

I believe you have a point when you say I'll never stop thinking about it. I know you're right. I'm sure people will ask (or are thinking) "why do you want this so much?" I could write a novel on that subject. So, with the great advice of all of you, fates willing, I'll be starting a real recruitment story this fall.

For now, I'm going to keep my head in my classes. I'll keep everyone posted on what's going to happen. As for my friend who was unsure about going Greek, I'm proud to say she's received a bid to Alpha Delta Pi!!!!

AlethiaSi- Thank you for your kind words of advice. I took them to heart.