Do people who constantly insult themselves annoy you?

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by orderandlaw

I'm not talking about in a joking way, either. The people who do it in a self pitying manner... It seems like they're just fishing for compliments.

Yes it does! My mother does this constantly which is why i only call her once a month and probably talk no longer than 20 minutes (yes I know this is bad but this has been going on for 20 years and I refuse to constantly put up with it).

[James]

In the defense of people in reasonably good shape that put themselves down . . .

Many are not fishing for compliments they just use a different standard of comparison.

Someone that is close to excellent shape may complain they need to lose weight, even though they are in better shape than most people. Because 5-10 pounds on them can tragically mar an otherwise excellent body type. Whereas 5-10 pounds on the really out of shape wouldn't even be worth mentioning.

5-10 pounds on a bikini body is really noticeable.

I do some people that only fish for compliments, and I define them as people that complain but will take no positive action to change. That applies to both the fit and unfit.