I wish there was an anonymous button on this web site as this is not a comfortable story for me to tell...
The short version is this; I have a family member who promised to help me acquire a couple of recs for my rush in the fall. I ran around like a crazy putting together a nice resume, making sure to send some nice photos, gathered my grades and the US equivalences of these, and had a very nice presentation of myself if I do say so myself. I sent them to said family member, all the while believing it was going to be passed along to her friends in various sororities which would have gotten me about 5 of the required 10 recs I need.
Family member tells me that this is taken care of... low and behold I have found out (don't ask how... LOL) that my information has not been sent/forwarded to anyone.. I have not told this family member that I know the truth... I asked if she needed anything else to which she replied "God no, it's all been sent to my friends already".
I can't believe she would lie and deceive me like this! She knows how competitive the school I'm rushing at is, and I worked so hard asking people to help me with recs (which is not easy being halfway across the globe) and TRUSTED her to help me get those 5 out of the way. Now I feel like time is running out and I need to find new people I can trust to send some recs for me. I mean what if I had not found out the truth? Then what? I would have gone through rush thinking I had some wonderful heartfelt and genuine recs, and probably been cut for not having recs at those 5 sororities!
I cannot believe my own family would do that to me?! I am so furious and have no idea what to do now, because if I try to ask around amongst people we know she will most likely hear about it, and get mad at me for not "trusting" her!
Sorry if this is so long, I just need help in figuring out my next step, and how to deal with this backstabbing!
When family members lie
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