Egg Donation

AlphaFrog · #1 01-24-2007, 08:42 AM

Has anyone here ever done it?

Since I got my tubes tied (two kids is plenty, thank you), and my eggs are just sitting there, unusable, I'm considering it. My OB said it was possible to donate, even with my tubes tied. I've read that the hormones they give you can cause cancer, but I've also read other studies that says those hormones aren't any riskier then birth control.

The other concern I've read about is the psychological concern: Can you handle the fact that you'll have "other children" out there that you'll never meet. Although, after being pregnant twice, and not wanting to go through that ever again, I don't think it would be that big of deal to me, since I wouldn't be the one carrying the egg for 9 months. Also, I like the idea of giving the gift of a baby to a couple who otherwise couldn't have one.

_Lisa_ · #2 01-24-2007, 09:50 AM

There is a thread about this in the archives:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/ar...p/t-63685.html

I remembered it because I have considered selling my eggs in the past. I've got the paper work from a clinic in another state because (at the time) there were no clinics in Kentucky that performed the service.

I feel the same way about giving a gift to a couple that otherwise could not conceive. It pains me that I'm able to have children but don't want my own, and that there are women out there that want children but can't have them. In the past I'd only considered donating an egg to someone I know that needed one, like my sister who is unable to have children. But now that I'm a bit older I don't think that would be as much of a deal anymore.

If I can drop down within the required weight range before I reach the maximum age limit, I do plan on interviewing with a clinic to see if I am eligible.

AlphaFrog · #3 01-24-2007, 09:57 AM

I searched and couldn't find that thread (because I thought I remembered one about it as well). It's kinda hard to read in that format.

PhoenixAzul · #4 01-24-2007, 11:02 AM

I'm considering donating to stem cell research because frankly, I don't like kids and I'd much rather have a cure for my disease.

cutie_cat_4ever · #5 01-24-2007, 02:29 PM

I've read an article in a magazine about this one women who was desperately trying to find an egg donor but end up disappointed becuase 1. A good amount of eggs end up being a poor donor; 2. The psychological effects. Some donors who originally promised to donate ended up backing up becuase they were afraid and couldn't bear the thought of having a child outside who shares their genes.

Knowing how badly some women wanted to have kids but couldn't have it is a painful feeling. If you feel that your eggs would be a good donor and you're sure that you won't feel any psychological effects afterwards (like trying to search for the child), then I would say go for it. It would definitely help a lot of women out there

_Lisa_ · #6 01-24-2007, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by cutie_cat_4ever

2. The psychological effects. Some donors who originally promised to donate ended up backing up becuase they were afraid and couldn't bear the thought of having a child outside who shares their genes.

A lot of reputable clinics have the donors go through psychological evaluations for this reason specifically. They want women to donate, but want to be sure they aren't at risk for asking to have their child once it is born or being depressed afterwards.

The clinic I had contacted pays for you to come & stay near the clinic for several weeks surrounding the donation. You take hormones, have psychological evaluations, doctor visits, the whole deal.

agzg · #7 10-13-2011, 09:36 AM

Good for you.

I read a study a little while ago that sperm donors actually feel "more like a father" than egg donors. I remember it said that it might have something to do with the fact that sperm donors are still doing their "full part" in terms of conception while egg donors won't be the one who is pregnant.

AlphaFrog · #8 10-13-2011, 10:49 AM

Here's something about it that sort of ruffled my feather and I'm sure will have the GC feminist panties in a twist...my husband has to sign off on this. Mine won't have a problem doing that, but really? That marriage certficate gives him that kind of control on MY eggs? The ridiculous nature of our law allows me to abort HIS baby without his say so, but I don't have full legal control of my unfertilized eggs. WTF?

agzg · #9 10-13-2011, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Here's something about it that sort of ruffled my feather and I'm sure will have the GC feminist panties in a twist...my husband has to sign off on this. Mine won't have a problem doing that, but really? That marriage certficate gives him that kind of control on MY eggs? The ridiculous nature of our law allows me to abort HIS baby without his say so, but I don't have full legal control of my unfertilized eggs. WTF?

Uh, you shouldn't have to ask him for either. That's really weird. Is that a legal thing or a thing the agency requires?

I mean, if you had kids that weren't by him he wouldn't have any legal control over him, why would this be different - you won't even have any legal control over the baby once it's born to different parents.

AlphaFrog · #10 10-13-2011, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by agzg

Uh, you shouldn't have to ask him for either. That's really weird. Is that a legal thing or a thing the agency requires?

I mean, if you had kids that weren't by him he wouldn't have any legal control over him, why would this be different - you won't even have any legal control over the baby once it's born to different parents.

Since it was mentioned in the step where you have your attorney consult, I'm assuming it's a legal thing.

agzg · #11 10-13-2011, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Since it was mentioned in the step where you have your attorney consult, I'm assuming it's a legal thing.

So what if the woman is unmarried? Do her parents have to sign off on it? Ridiculous.

"Hey dad, I need your permission to donate my eggs. Even though I don't need your permission to have a child, dig myself a whole of debt, blow myself up, etc."

DaffyKD · #12 10-13-2011, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Here's something about it that sort of ruffled my feather and I'm sure will have the GC feminist panties in a twist...my husband has to sign off on this. Mine won't have a problem doing that, but really? That marriage certficate gives him that kind of control on MY eggs? The ridiculous nature of our law allows me to abort HIS baby without his say so, but I don't have full legal control of my unfertilized eggs. WTF?

When I had my hysterectomy in 1998, I was told my husband would have had to sign off on the procedure had I still been married. Since when does a husband know more about the medical needs of a woman than her doctor?

DaffyKD

katydidKD · #13 10-13-2011, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Here's something about it that sort of ruffled my feather and I'm sure will have the GC feminist panties in a twist...my husband has to sign off on this. Mine won't have a problem doing that, but really? That marriage certficate gives him that kind of control on MY eggs? The ridiculous nature of our law allows me to abort HIS baby without his say so, but I don't have full legal control of my unfertilized eggs. WTF?

Low C Sharp · #14 10-13-2011, 11:07 AM

The law doesn't require this step. It has to be a policy of the agency.

AlphaFrog · #15 10-13-2011, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

The law doesn't require this step. It has to be a policy of the agency.

Source on this?

And, no, if you're 18+ and unmarried no one has to sign off.