Bf from dead chapter

[DLanoliN]

I've been with my boyfriend for about eight months now. He was Greek in College. I really appreciate this about him, he understand so much more about me than a GDI would. He understands where I take off to several times a year, and why. He understands the bond I have with my sisters and others in the Greek community at my Alma Mater. He was in a large National Fraternity in the South; I am in a very small Local Sorority in the North.

Things are serious-ish. He hasn't had the pleasure of meeting many of my sisters since I am an alumnus and my sisters are scattered across the state and country. A few of us that are tight get together just about every month (including significant others, we are all close). I plan on bringing him to one of these gatherings. I also want to bring him to my College for Alumni Weekend or something.

Under normal circumstances, he would love this sort of thing. However, there is an issue. Shortly after he graduated, his Chapter got into some hazing trouble and was closed. It is a sore subject for him. At times he has spoken about information that I would not normally be privy to. I've commented that I did not know it was alright to share that kind of info or experiences. He gets pretty down about it and says it doesn't matter anymore, they're dead. I can tell some things about his experience are still very sacred to him though. I think one day he might get involved in an Alumni Association of his Fraternity or something, he just isn't ready yet.

My question up for discussion is: Should I bring him to my Alma Mater for a large Greek gathering where ALL my closest friends will be? Should I stick to the small meetings? I'm worried it will depress him, or be a lot of fun. I am of course going to talk to him about this. I just wanted to bounce the situation off some strangers. My GDI friends either don't get my dilemma at all, or don't think I should not bring him because "You guys get out of hand sometimes" . My Greek friends want me to bring him to "See if he can handle us" lol. Again, I am going to discuss this with him, but some random advice and thoughts might help.

Thanks for reading my babble if you did