[Zach]

I think Phrozen’s on to something here, and I say that as someone who’s lived through it twice. One of the things I’ve learned is that when women detach emotionally, they’re already halfway gone. You usually don’t see it coming because on the surface, everything seems fine. But once that emotional switch flips, it’s over, she’s not working her way back, she’s working her way out. That’s why the stats are what they are. Women file for the majority of divorces, and it’s not usually because of abuse, it’s because they weren’t happy.

And that’s the scary part. You can be faithful, help with bills, do everything you think is right, and still wake up one day blindsided by papers you didn’t expect. To gamble a man’s home, security, and future on the stability of someone else’s emotions, that’s a high risk move. From experience, it’s a risk that can gut you before you even know you’re in trouble.

When emotions run the show, logic doesn’t stand a chance. A man’s house is too much to stake on feelings that can change overnight.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

If I were y’all, I’d just move closer like you’re doing, and stay committed without doing the marriage thing. You don’t have to marry to be together. I work with a lady who’s been with her dude for 30 years without getting married.

I get your point about not needing marriage, but for me it’s even simpler, I don’t bother with dating at all. I’ve been through enough to know women can be a distraction and a liability. Single life is peaceful. No drama, no risk, no bending over backwards just to end up blindsided later. I’ve got my career, my routine, and my freedom. That’s all I need.

The biggest mistake men make is thinking they have to be with someone. They don’t. Peace beats paperwork every time.

Originally Posted by Cheerio

Having watched too much Judge Judy over the years, I can say getting married is better than not when it comes to eventually possibly breaking up.

I’ve been divorced twice. Marriage doesn’t protect men, it drains them. Women file most divorces, and the courts lean their way. Assets, alimony, and a man’s peace of mind go right out the window. So no, staying unmarried is better for the guy, hands down. At least he keeps what’s his without the state getting involved.