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Old 02-13-2011, 07:11 PM
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Originally Posted by Drolefille View Post
I disagree that quitting is your answer. I think you should go, and see how you feel then. As someone who sometimes has to force myself to be social I have had that "DO NOT WANT TO GO" feeling. However you need to go now, then talk to someone you trust about how you're feeling and what is legitimately making you upset.

If you can't reconcile it, then you can depledge.
Maybe this is lane swerving, but I would feel some kinda way if a new member had to force herself to participate in a ritual, and that would be her litmus test of seeing if this was for her. We (greeks) put a lot of energy into ceremonies like this, and for someone to be lukewarm about it would be a blow to the ego on behalf of my chapter.

I dont think "not being a social butterfly" cuts it here. When you join something bigger, you have to start checking yourself at the door for the bigger whole. It sounds like a whole lot of "I" in her team.

I just wonder why there's even an option of OP going or not. Maybe that's considered hazing, to make a PNM participate in ritual?
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